Would you ... A, B, or C??? (see details)?

A -- what you know is your ace, you know something that she has said about you, but she doesn't know that. i suggest you don't confront her about it, instead focus on your work and do your tasks better and perfectly. think of the sweet revenge you'll get when you're up there on the career ladder and she's left behind. and if you did talk to her about it, i don't think that's gonna fix anything. she's obviously a ***** -- even when you try to make ammends, she'll stay the way she is -- and probably ***** about you when you're not around.

im asian, but i don't look asian (im half-european) -- and one time while i was doing clinical rotation, these asian women were talking about me and was really mean (they thought i could not understand what they're saying) they were saying stuff like "im not gonna help that stupid girl" -- i was tempted to say something in my language to embarrass them, but i held back instead. i liked playing with their minds. whenever they said something about me, i'd give them the look that i know what they're talking about, but not say something -- they were paranoid.

at the same time, i learned a couple of things... these people have the crab mentality, they will bring you down to bring themselves up. they would not tell me details about the work, but i used my ability to understand their language without their knowing and use it to my advantage. so in the end -- i had the ace in my hands, i performed better, thanks to them.

so that's my secret... never reveal what you know.

Go there, discuss whatever it is the meeting requires, and then leave. Be an adult and don't start a confrontation or let your hurt feelings get in the way. There's no point at demanding an explanation... everyone has a right to their own opinion, and putting the other women on the spot will make them feel attacked.

A. Don't let anyone stop you from doing what you want. yeah act normal as to not let her see that it bothers you (even if it does) as she probably wants a reaction. It will bug the hell out of her that you are not upset. If she confronts you, don't back down or get upset as I said she wants that. Just tell her you want to be with your friends at the meeting and go about your business. Someone teased me a a kid and I would cry, fight back, be upset,until I didn't give him the satisfaction anymore. I stared out the window of the bus and ignored him. He taunted me for a while and I had to bite my lip from crying, but he stopped and became civil a while later. Have fun at the meeting! Rude people have nothing better to do than stick their nose in the air and one day maybe your satisfaction will come when someone punches her in that stuck up nose. So there!

what kind of a meeting is it? On the information given so far I would have to say "B" because if you like this woman and you want to have a friendship but she's being really two faced, you need to confront her about it and maybe she will start to be nicer behind your back. You cannot let people do that to you as it is complete mistrust and you have to show that you are not willing to stand for that and you want your friends to be trusting and friendly. I would have a long chat about why she doesn't like you behind your back but I wouldn't be all "bitchy" about it. I think she's really horrible and I would just try to cut friendship off with her a bit if she's going to be like that tbh. It's not fair on you who's trying so hard to be friends with someone. However, do not bring up this discussion with everyone else, just have it a bit discreetly.

B) Go to the meeting and confront her about not inviting you, and demand an explanation?

Don't be a hypocrite!

A) go to the meeting and pretend nothing is wrong- if you want to confront her do it another time when the others aren't around so they don't feel awkward.

A, Absolutely! Otherwise, you'll make yourself look bad if you choose "B." After that, I'm not sure what possibility there could be for another option.

SInce you know that she doesn't want you at the meeting, just pay close attention to her. Don't be intimidated by her, but "forewarned is forearmed." Don't let her throw you. Just go on with things.

Go to the meeting and act like you know nothing about it. It's hear-say, anyway. How do you know for sure that it isn't gossip. By being gracious, you are giving her the chance to have a change of heart and feel guilty as heck. - If she doesn't you're showing her that you are definitely the better person.

Don't let idle gossip prevent you from putting your best foot forward and being yourself. Have fun- and totally act like you

know nothing about it. Answer A.

I would go to the meeting and not pay much attention to her. You don't have to kiss up to her or be nice. Don't be rude either.

Obviously I wouldn't have her over for coffee anymore etc.

Just rise above it and don't let a friends who act negatively or acts like that behind your back get to you.

She doesn't sound like she is much of a friend and is not worth the effort.

I would go to the meeting and ignore her.. If she was going to talk to me I would nicely smile and walk away.. You don't want to spoil the meeting but you would let her know that you are aware of her intentions.... Be the bigger person and keep your head on high....