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WHY I CANNOT forget the negative things that happened in my life?

THEY KEEP ON HOUNDING me even in my dreams!!!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    u can 4get the negative things in ur life provided u want 2 4get them.If u want to stay nd live with those feelings,then how do u xpect them 2 4get them.I knw..its easy to say..but it is not impossible to do so.Try spendin much of ur time wid ur family or some1 to whom u r close in ur family,watch good comedy movies,keep urself bizi nd equipped with work.Nd i am sure..this wil help u 2 take out all that haunting thoughts frm ur mind slowly nd slowly.Life is very small nd so enjoy it otherwise plz dont dont ruin ur life for those incidents..2moro u may regret thinkin tat u wasted a lot of time thinkin of all this issue.bye nd tc

  • 1 decade ago

    Before you go to sleep tell yourself that you no longer will have those dreams and if you do you now know how to take care of yourself. (it worked for me in two nights) Say it over and over again until your subconscious believes it.

    Bad things in life happen. Some people have more hard times than others do. Bad things can put negitive images in our brain. A person can retrain or rewrite those things that invade the brain.

    Make a plan. List each negitive happening. Then next to it write a positive affermation. Eventually your brain will be retrained.

    As humans we have open wounds that become scars.

    You can choose to let your wounds heal or you can choose to keep them infected and festering.

    Have you gotten any counseling?

  • 1 decade ago

    Maybe because you have not yet effected a closure for those things. In everything one does there is a start and an end. You have to put an end or a closure to those negative things. You have to learn to put an end to it "as if closing a chapter" on a book. Probably, you could have the services of a professional to help you with it or maybe a priest or minister.

  • 1 decade ago

    Because you will never forget them. You can find a new center to your life, a positive center, which will help you focus on what you want to make of your life. Once you find this center, you can usually use those horrible things that occurred in your past as a learning experience, from which you gain yourself back,and like new molded clay, sculpt happiness and love for yourself and all that your life means to you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It is because of the fact that she is not sincere and faithful to you. She should not do any thing which is against your wishes. On ther hand you are sincere with her. You are a faithful husband. Try to instruct her that she should not do this thing as it will jeopardize your marital relations. This relat ion is very noble and sensitive too. We all should honour this relation as much as possible but the traffic will not be one sided it should be double sided traffic .

  • 1 decade ago

    You need to learn to overcome them with the positive things. Until you focus on the positive only you'll never get rid of the negative.

  • 1 decade ago

    Make some good new things to put in your head to replace the bad old things.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    see a therepist. Many people like to play the victim in their lives, you, I don't think wants that b/c your asking for advise. Maybe you really need to vent.

  • mkm
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Don't make it to happen even in your dreams..

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i think u need a girlfriend riight now and once u will get a girlfriend then u will stop thinking this and will start to think about her all the time

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