Pre-wedding stuff...?

Well first off congrats and I am getting married 07/07/07 too! Now that you picked an awesome date, heres whats what. As for the bridal shower, usually the maid of honor or the mother of the bride throw that one. Yes you should know when and where its going to happen. As to who to invite, the ladies! It shouldnt be all the woman you invite to the wedding but if you invite them to the shower they should be invited to the wedding. As to who after that, thats up to you and whomever is throwing it. Mostly close friends and family should be there though, and of course your bridal party. As for the bachlorette party that is the Maid of Honors job. She needs to plan it and pay for it, if there are costs, but it may be smart to have all the bridesmaids help out. You should know when so you dont make plans but other than that it should be a surprise. Its really up to whomever is throwing it on what they decide to tell you. You should invite your bridal party and your close girl friends. that would have fun with you. I dont know how old you are but if you are younger and are planning a go out dance, stripper and drink party I wouldnt invite your aunts and mom like you did for the shower... One last thing make sure you tell whomever is throwing you these who you would like to be there and give them contact information so they can get ahold of them. Hope that helps. Congrats and Happy New Year!

The Maid Of Honor/Bride's Maids are responsible for throwing the bridal shower and the bachelorette party. A bridal shower should be about 6 months or so before the wedding and the bachelorette party can be whenever..usually 1 or 2 weeks before the wedding. Some people have it the night before but then you have to worry about being hung over for your wedding. They can be a surprise or you can know about it, it all depends. Anyone (just the girls) who is going to be invited to the wedding should be invited to the bridal shower. It's rude and tacky to invite someone who will not be at the wedding. For the bachelorette party it's usually all the girls in the wedding party and some close friends. And it all depends on what type of party you're having. Whether its just lunch with the girls, a day at the spa, or a night full of half naked men and alcohol...

Congrats on the wedding!

I have helped several friends with their weddings...three weddings in the last two years. I was a bridesmaid or maid of honor in them. Prior to that I have been in or helped plan about 10 weddings. The bridal shower is supposed to be given by the attendants, although sometimes family sponsors the shower(s) as well. The shower usually isn't given until about three to four months before the wedding. The bride usually supplies the list of who to invite. Never invite someone that will not be invited to the wedding. For bachelorette party, typically the maid or matron of honor heads this up. This event is usually very close friends..this can include friends that aren't attendants. Again, don't invite anyone that wouldn't be invited to the wedding. You can know about the events. My friends all knew about the events and some even gave imput on what they wanted. They are personal events catered to the bride. There are a variety of shower and bachlorette options available. There are several wedding sites online where you can find answers to specific wedding questions. www.theknot.com is very popular. Relax and enjoy!

Bridal shower can be given by several people. I have known the mother, or family friends of the bride to throw the shower and it is usually a month or two before the wedding. The batchelorette party is usually given my the maid of honor, and the ones I have been to have been about a week or so before the wedding. Oh and whos invited to the bridal shower is usually all the bridesmaids as well as any other woman that is special in your life including older women, aunts, grandmothers, moms best friend... also any of your friends that are not in the wedding. batchelorette party is all the bridesmaids plus any more of your close female friends that you couldn't have in the wedding.

Sit back and don't worry about a thing. You're not supposed to know anything. The bridal shower can be at any time. But normally not less then a month away from the wedding. The bachelorette party can be a surprise but normally you are told when it will be. Some girls may ask you where you want to go and some may just surprise you. As for who goes to each...bridal shower...all the female guests to your wedding. The bachelorette party - your side of the bridal party and your close girlfriends and your new sister-in-laws. But anyone can really go to these things.

How about a co-ed shower? That a new thing couples are doing these days.

It all depends on the situation. I'm planning most of my events so of course I'm gonna know about them. The bridal shower is usually hosted by your maid of honor or bridesmaids. Its usually given a few weeks before the wedding. As for the bachlorette party I'm having mine the weekend before my wedding that way its out of the way the week before the wedding because there are a lot of little things that pop up and need to be done during that week. Good luck!

As for a bridal shower, someone other than the bride or her immediate family members is SUPPOSED to give the shower, but nowadays, it's not uncommon to have the bride's sister give it. If she doesn't have a sister, then the maid of honor or the bridesmaids as a whole can give it. You can invite anyone you want to the shower, but don't invite anyone who isn't going to be invited to the wedding. Because the purpose of a shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts, it would be rude to invite someone to the gift-giving party, and then not invite them to the wedding.

As for the bachelorette party, usually it's the bridesmaids that plan it, it USUALLY takes place within a week or so of the wedding (maybe the weekend before.) Again, anyone can be invited, but I wouldn't invite someone who isn't invited to the wedding.

ok, the bridal shower and bachlorette parties should be hosted by your maid of honor and the other bridesmaids (the mais of honor runsthe show though). the bridal shower is typically 4 weeks before the wedding. the bachlorette party is usually the weekend before the wedding or a few days before the nuptials. Invite your close friends to hte bachlorette party as well as any sisters ofthe groom and the bridesmaids. To the shower invite your female family members, friends, bridesmiads, and of course the grooms family.

Congrats!

Showers are given by friends, usually the MoH is the one but not always. Family might have a seperate shower but only family is invited to this one. Unless they are r-e-a-l close to you, the person that buys you a shower gift, is not expected to buy you a wedding gift as well.

The MoH usually hosts the bach party. Doesn't make any difference whether you know about them or not. Usually it helps. But you aren't part of the planning, you just show up.

Bridal showers are usually given by one or more of your bridesmaids. It's bad form for your mom or his mom to throw one for you.

I had 3 showers--one hosted by my maid of honor and wedding director, one at work, and one given by friends in my grad school cohort. My mom and his mom came to the one hosted by my maid of honor.

Bridal showers are usually 4-8 weeks before the wedding and you should know about it before hand so you can give a guest list to the host(s).

Bachelorette parties are also the responsibility of your bridesmaids. They can occur as far out as 6 weeks from the wedding and I think you should know about it before hand so you can figure out who to invite.

My maid of honor organized mine, which was a weekend trip to the mountains with my five bridesmaids and another good friend. Bachelorette parties don't have to be wild, drunken nights of dancing and being silly. Think about what you like to do and what will help you relax.