Why would a man want to stay with his wife after she tells him she no longer loves him?

It sounds like he can't accept the reality of it. She may be his world; but he isn't hers; has he no respect for himself, that he can continue to be with someone who doesn't care for him any more.

At least his wife is being honest - And may I say here that divorced people are NOT failures. The failure lies in refusing to accept the reality of a dead relationship.

Many thousands of couples divorce every year; they have acknowledged that their relationship is over; that while they may have loved each other once. people change, they grow. What they wanted when they were twenty may not be the same thing they want when they are thirty.

This poor deluded man will find himself a loser in every respect if he doesn't get his act together.

20 years ago, I told my husband I didn't love him any more. He decided I was mentally unstable, and proceeded to call in the parish priest to speak to me about my waywardness!

I showed the priest the door; then finally convinced my husband that we would both be much healthier if we lived apart.

I was. He wasn't. He hounded me for five years. He followed me in the car when I went out; He checked up on my working hours; he complained to Social services that I was an unfit mother, and that my children were starving.

All lies of course. He wanted to undermine the success I was making of my life. He failed.

This man you speak of sounds similar to my ex husband. Talk about flogging a dead horse. He should get out and get on with living a real life, not one that depends on someone else.

Unfortunatly people stay married for some not so great reasons. I feel if you are not loved by your partner there is no reason to be there, no matter how much you may love and need them.

Its stigma, divorce = failure. Not true! We as a society have found that it is important to take care of our own mental state. If the marriage is unhealth, get out. Or it will drag you into an abyss of depression.

There are other fish in the sea, and you deserve sushi grade not bottom feeders!

If he says she is his whole world, he obviously loves her. He obviously needs to know he gave it his all if it does fail as well. If his marriage fails, and he has given it his all, then he can move on with a good conscience. I completely understand his point of view of feeling like "divorced people are failures"- so many people divorce for the lamest of reasons these days that there are alot of divorcees that are failures (not all- but there are many). He took his vows seriously, and wants to carry through with them. I see honor and value in that. If he is truly unhappy, he will tire of it after awhile because you get tired of being unhealthy, and if the marriage is not meant to be, it will end for a valid reason, but he will be able to live with himself because he'll know he gave it his all.

misery loves misery.

So maybe he's just staying with her despite all the problems because he doesn't want others to see him as a failure, or maybe he really does love her deeply.

Not all divorced people are failures, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Maybe they need marriage counseling.

Sounds like this man needs to have his eyes opened. He's finally saying you're his whole world, etc. but why didn't he show you that earlier? I went back to my (ex) husband because he acted the same way. It lasted less than a year. You can't change the spots on a leopard.

He shouldnt feel like he is a failure its not his fault that she no longer loves him and if she does not then he does need to leave her or he needs to find out why she feels this way if he really loves her and does not want a divorce but HE IS NOT A FAILURE you need to tell him this. its her fault not his. And no if he is miserable then he does need to leave so he can find happiness. i am sooo sorry this happended to him but he is not a failure.

This is not an answer to your question.

I just want to say that " . " , you're a total loser. You have never asked a question and you only answer questions under the subject of singles & dating, marriage & divorce, and such, pathetically hoping someone will bite on your worthless rhetoric. Coward.

children. thats the reason my mum and dad tried to make it work, and it broke down eventually anyway. being divorced doesnt make him a failure, considering its so popular these days. get him to the doctor and get him some meds for the depression. maybe then his head will be clear enough to make a good decision for them both.

I think he just wants to be A**, if you don't love someone , how in the world are you going to go to bed with them everynight. If a man knows his wife doesn't love him ,he better look at himself because she must have loved you when she married you. How have you changed take a good look at your own actions and you'll know what happened to cause her to fall out of love with you. You see what the question is take a good look at yourself MISTER.

men are strange creatures and yes for the wife to end it would make him see himself as a failure, have they tried to find out why he carries on the way he does and look at find a solution before throwing it all away