~*Have 3 girlz-how do I give each a special part in the wedding without seeming biased*~?

You are in the same boat as me! I have a 14 year old girl who will be my Jr. Bridesmaid, my son, who is 10 will be walking me down the aisle and he is also an usher , and my 2 year old who is the ring bearer.

To stop conversation on what is more important in terms of roles I told them when I was talking to them that they each had a huge role in my wedding and that i really needed their help. I asked for their suggestions, and really made them feel like a huge part of the wedding itself. My son at first was a bit miffed because my daughter was going to be standing up there the whole time with me. He is now fine because he realizes no matter what job he has, I love all three of them the same and that there is no role bigger than the other, as it all ties into the wedding.

With the ages of your children, they are old enough to know that any part in a wedding is special, and even more special because it is their own mother marrying.

Good luck and congratulations!

I think helping them to understand the importance of each individual role they play and how fundamental each one of them are to the flow of the wedding.

Such As:

The flower girl sets the scene for the beginning of the wedding when she walks down the aisle then she is the herald of the beginning.The start is important but is more so when it has a middle and when it has an end.SO one child is the beginning...

The ring bearer brings the gift of unity and follows the beginning. Without the start and the middle of something there would be no ending or no created moments thereof.

The Veil holder completes the whole scenario and though is the ending to the story what would each be without the other?And where would the story be if there was no one to begin it no one to fill the middle and no one to close it?

There is importance in each role they each have their own seperate part and their own seperate moment to shine...But remind them that though they are apart of the story and for their moments and parts shine they aren't THE story right then the Wedding is:)

Hope That Helps,

M.G

The youngest should be your flower girl, middle should be your ring bearer and oldest should be a Junior Bridesmaid.

Or each should be a flower girl and they should walk in birth order from youngest going first to oldest going last.

Can you give their ages?

ETA: I just saw their ages. I think the 10 year old should be the flower girl, the 11 year old should hold the ring (if you watched by any chance "the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, they had the teenage daughter carry the ring and they tied the pillow to her bouquet, which might work for you) and the 13 year old should be your Junior bridesmaid. You should only have a maid of honor as well to keep your focus on your daughters. If you have a huge wedding party then your girls will get lost in the midst of alot of people.

what are your daugthers ages. are they between ages 2-10 if thats the case we know the youngest one has to be the flower girl. The older ones can both hold the veil. Let the girls now that the role they play is not important what is important is that they are there to support you on this special day. Now if the girls are age 11 and older have them all be little bridesmaids. and find a little niece to be your flower girl. Have the flower girl walk in first and then your daugthers and then the rest of the bridal party. Good luck and congratulations on your wedding.

if they are concerned about who will get more attention in teh wedding...tell them they all will.

the flower girl will be the first seen and is letting everyone know the wedding is starting. the ring bearer is holding the rings and everyone will see her give the rings to you both. the veil holder/carrier will be holding your dress and since she will be behind you everyone will see her.

or just explain the importance of each role, maybe let them decide which role they want to take part of.

Ask them all to "give you away". In addition, tell them you would like them to help you decide who can perform the other "less-important" duties including the ones you mentioned. Others include a greeters and readers. You might find they each get to choose a role they want without any conflict. If there are conflicts, they may be able to share that role too.

Good luck.

Is it possible to have them all stand up by you during the ceremony? I think all of the little things help such as their names being placed in the program as a part of the ceremony. Same special hairstlyes and dresses. Why can't two be flower girls and one have the same basket with the ring tied to it somehow. That way they are all walking up together holding the same thing! I think that the one holding your veil will feel a little more special because she walks up with you. (You could have a bridesmaid help with your veil!)

I would try and have them as bridesmaid depending on their ages. If not what you have right now sounds okay. I have sisters too, so just tell them that they are equally important. The other, less nice option is to just leave them out of the wedding. I think you can have more than one flower girl so you could try that too. best wishes!!!

Let each one know their individual roles and show them how each is vital to your wedding. Show why you chose each position- based on age, etc.

Have them all walk together down the aise with you because not only will you husband to be be uniting with you but with your daughters also.