If your husband/wife didn`t want sex at all, what would you do?

I have the exact same problem with my spouse. I have to say that I really believe that marriage is good for children. It helps them grow up with stability and they get a good perspective about working problems out. Three years is a long time to have an unresolved marital issue and I am sure you are very frustrated. If you have not tried professional counseling, then I believe you should think about a marital counselor, especially one that specializes in sex therapy. It is really rare for men to not be interested in sex, so that would concern me most of all. If you have tried everything you can, and are emotionally give out, then I would understand you wanting to move on.

I do not care what people say but sex is very important in a relationship. Communication is the most important. Talk to your husband and ask him why he is not into sex. Was he into sex before you got married? Maybe he has a medical problem that a doctor needs to fix. My husband is 47 years old we have been married for 5 years together for 8 and yes our sex life and dwindled down some but we have sex 3 times a week not 1 time in three years. There are some men out in this world that have no desire for sex. They either are born that way or they have a medical condition or maybe he is gay or could be getting it elsewhere. I would really look into this and talk to your husband about this. I do not care waht nationality he is most guys are horn dogs and will find every chance to have sex.

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I would look intro counselling ASAp to find out why he is not feeling like sex once in three years I would have ended it unless it was a medical problem and then I will love my wife

until death do us apart. This just sounds screwed up talk to him ask him why I'm wondering did he see the child birth maybe that has him all screwed up?

Just a thought once in three years and you have three year old?

I would have to say unless this guy is cheating or has extreme will power I do not know how he is going without sex for such a long time. I think most guys would agree with me when I say we like it as much as we can get it well most guys not all?

Has he ever had a problem getting it up? Maybe he has ED?

Is there a significant age difference? like say your 23 and he 53 anyways that may be a factor?

Did you put on alot of weight with pregnancy and didn't take it off maybe he is not attracted to you anymore?

I hope you come to a conclusion man you must be horny?

God Bless and Good Luck!

You are not alone my dear and there are many remedies for this and sex to some people does not make a marriage and usually it's the woman who says that. I am sure you have discussed this with him already or I hope you have at least told him how you feel and your intentions in this matter. So, her is my alternative solution and I hope you have an open mind.

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This is rediculous...once in three years? So, he is obviously getting it somewhere else and cheating on you. Regardless, you cannot sustain a healty, meaningful marriage and family if the parents are not deeply connected on many levels, where sexual intimacy is an important component. Of course the child is attached, but children are also adaptable. You are not doing anyone any favors by sacrificing on behalf of your child. Better to do what needs to be done now, rather than later. There are plenty of well adjusted kids coming from divorce. Make sure yours is one of them. You are just wasting the best years of your life on a losing situation. It is long past time to go.

I think it really depends on your relationship with your husband. Is sex the most important thing in your relationship?If so then yeah divorce him. If not no. Get lots of toys or work out an agreement. I hope you and your husband can work this out I wish you luck.

I'm in the same situation, love. It sucks. I have come to the conclusion that I am totally unattractive to my husband and that I don't turn him on at all. To be honest, he doesn't do it for me either. I love him, but he is really obese. Small down there too. I don't want to leave him though and I am not interested in having an affair either, but I do miss sex. I used to love to **** and I often think about the hot guys I have been with. So, I don't know what to do either, dear, other than to wish you luck with whatever decision you need to get to. Take care!

My wife and I have had sex 3 times in 4 years. It is not good. But Since I travel on occasion I get around a bit. Not much, but I am choosey. I will never leave my wife, but there are practical aspects to life that are necessary. My opinion, do not have an affair. But, if you are seriously in need of sex, look into a local swingers group. Single women are always welcome and you control everything. Yes means yes and no means no. You do not have to worry about it ever getiting back to hubby and you never have to worry about him picking up the phone and hearing some strange man asking for you. It is an option. Not a good one for some, but and option.

I would hang out on Y!Answers all day. Hahahaha. Laughing > crying.

Uh, beyond that, I don't know.

Your child should grow up in a happier home.

Easier to say then do, but hey: you should tell your husband that he needs to figure out what's going on and/or go to counselling or the marriage is going to end.

Why doesn't he want to have sex? Regardless of his nationality, he's still a man, and men like sex.

Be up front and ask him why. Don't accept any lame excuses. Maybe he has a medical issue.

Listen to his reason and tell him that you have needs. See what his response is and make a decision.