men and their relationships with their mothers?

she doesn't need a book.

first of all, your daughter could consider having a discussion with her future husband... and let him know that while she is aware he loves his mother, his wife and home will have to come first after marriage.... (of course, if the mother in law is a single woman, she may need certain help from time to time from the son, and that is reasonable enough).

Your daughter may have her hands full with this situation after marriage, so she might as well get used to it now... however, i still feel she needs to talk with her man about this pre-wedding.

if the mother in law decides to try to control your daughter at any time in the future, your daughter needs to make it clear that while she appreciates advice and "help" she nor her husband need any unless they ASK for it. and also, that she expects to be left to run her own home and life without unsolicited advice or suggestions.

if push comes to shove, she can let the mother in law know she is intruding.... calmly, and pleasantly (it CAN be done!)

we need to set boundaries in our lives... especially when it comes to relatives.

people who are controlling usually have high anxiety issues, and their "controlling nature" tends to be a temporary "fix" for them -- it's difficult for them to stop, but if your daughter and her husband make it clear, she will eventually stop.

you didn't give any examples, so this was the best advice i can muster...

all the best!

Many women have problems sharing son/husband. There should be no competition because they are different relationships. Your daughter has to realize he loves his mom and in part he will be a good husband because of that. He obviously respects women. His mother has to realize his primary obligation is now to his partner, and she will have to be less demanding on his time. Sensibility, respect, no jealousy, and time to allow for changes is what is needed.

I don't know of any books but he is a mama's boy and she really needs to rethink the relationship before she marries him. His mothers wishes will always come first. I won't marry someone like him she will control every part of their marriage and children's lives. Its great he is close to his mother but he needs his own life also.

i don't know of a book. but i had the same problem with my partners mother. has ur daughter spoke to her fiance about his mother? she really needs to stress the point across, but in a nice way. just tell her to remind him that he doesn't need to be doing that anymore...not living there and he now has a parnter and can't wait on his mother hand and foot....

he needs to tell his mother...if he doesn't, your daughter is just going to have to put up with it.

she's just trying to not lose her baby boy. eventually, her son will take your daughter's side and of course she won't like it, but that is just the way it all pans out for a lot of mothers with boys. I have 3 boys myself and have already heard numerous stories about this situation. I dont look forward to it.

He needs the book.

Read up on Freud and on his ideas on Psychology. He makes alot of sense. You might be able to figure out why he's such a "mama's boy".

yeah another question..would be just that...

how many men here have the same relationship as Ray on

Everybody Loves Raymond...

how many wives suffer from this same relationship??

Hahah, your daughter sure knows how to pick 'em eh? Is she sure she wants to enter in to that family?

Well that is something she'll have to get used too or put her foot down.. it's not uncommon