how you felt when you saw the positive test?

im 28.4 weeks pregnant and i was the same. we tried for 18 months to conceive and when the test came positive, i was just like oh right, ok. even at my 12 week scan, it resembled a baby but it didnt sink in it never really became real until i went for my 20 weeks scan and seen my perfectly formed little baby that actually looked like a tiny little person.

the feelings will come.

I felt the same way. I've had 5 miscarriages in the past so I think it was a case of 'oh ok lets see how long it lasts this time', I guess I just didnt want to get my hopes up. I'm over the moon to be pregnant now, but for those first few weeks until I had my first scan to make sure everything was ok then it didnt seem real, I was expecting to wake up and not be pregnant. Does that even make sense? Perhaps your the same, its been a long road and you cant believe whats happened. I'm sure it will have no affect on how you feel for the baby in the end. You're feeling may change (like mine did) the further into the pregnancy you get and the more real it seems!

It just hasn't sunk in yet, that's all. This doesn't mean you won't be able to bond with your baby!

Just wait until you hear the heartbeat, feel the first movements...perhaps it's just not "real" to you yet.

I had the giggles each time I got a positive pregnancy test. Probably from nerves, because none of those pregnancies were planned! But all I thought about was, whoa, there is a living being growing inside of me! I was tripping.

Every woman is different and some women bond at different times. Don't worry. You're totally normal!

And...congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I felt the exact same thing. I tested at a friend's place - and she fell down her bed coz she was so excited for me. I was like okay, its positive - umm.. lets talk about something else :P

I don't think the bonding happened until I saw the heartbeat on the ultrasound - thats when it hit me - I'm having a baby!

With my growing belly, the feeling keeps getting warmer and I am really looking forward to the little one. Don't worry - its completely natural to be confused and taken aback.

You will surface as a great mother by the end of it! Congratulations!

To be honest i think it just sounds like you are frightened to b excited because that makes it real and then u start worrying about what will go wrong. so just relax. enjoy being pregnant. you have so much time to get used to this little life growing inside of u. just take each day as it comes. im 30 weeks and for the first few months i didn't even feel pregnant. id just forget ha ha. i think when u have your scan r hear baby's heart beat its starts to get more real. then u start getting kicked all over and its very hard to forget u r pregnant after that lol. But the main thing is i think what u r feeling is very normal so don't beat ur self up about it OK. : ) good luck

Hi there,

I felt exactly the same the first time I got a positive result... even though my hubby and I would have wanted to get pregnant.

I think it was because it didn't really sink in and meant nothing to me in a way, I still felt the same and it was sureal.

It doesn't start to get exciting and sink in until you get your first scan and then it only sinks in a bit... especially for men who can only get it into their heads when the baby is born!

It doesn't mean you won't be able to bond with your baby.... my goodness your life has only just begun, you will never experience such joy until that wee baby is in your arms and you and your hubby will be over the moon wrapped upin a bubble of love!!

Sophia (mum of 2 year old and 1 on way!)

My reaction was about the same. I bought the test and went to the bathroom, saw the pink line, went to my fiance and showed it to him (not one word come from both our mouths), he kissed me on the head and then he walked outside and watered the garden and I carried on with the supper. It was like we couldn't believe it. Only after supper did we actually speak about it. And it wasn't because it wasn't planned, we were actually trying but it only took us a month so it was unexpected.

Don't worry it took me until my first appointment to really come to terms with the fact that I am pregnant and sometimes even now after hearing the heartbeat do I sometimes think I am dreaming.

I think your reaction was normal.

My very first reaction was to jokingly slap my partner.

We'd been trying to concieve for about a year. I'd taken a test just because I didn't know exactly when I wa due, and felt a bit offish.

I left the test in the bathroom, and asked my partner to collect it when the three minutes were up.

he came into the living room holding the strip, looking a bit glum. I just assumed it was negative again. He put it on the sofa, and asked if I wanted a cuppa.

I agreed, and off he went to make drinks.

I reached over, looked at the test... saw the line, and my heart rose into my throat! lol. Rather unexpected, evil Partner of mine ;)

i think alot of people feel like that, dont worry, u will probibly get a little jolt about it when u get ur first scan or feel the baby move then u will probibly get so excited u wont be able to believe it but dont worry about not bonding im sure u will bond great with ur baby and u will be a great mother. congratulations and good luck

Your reaction when you see that little blue + is no indication that you will have problems bonding. There is a reason why nature made the human gestation period nine months long, and that's because it can take that long to get used to the idea.