What does mean that you have a borline personality?

Borderline personality disorder got its name from being a disoder on the border of being psychotic. I bet that explanation didn't mean very much to you so I will explain.

BPD symptoms are an intolerability to negative emotions. People will seek out pleasure all the time and if they can't find pleasure will resort to hurting themselves to turn the emotional pain into a physical one. Needing to eat high sugar high fat comfort foods, abuse drugs, be the party person, etc are all signs of BPD. This is also why people who are hurting inside cut themselves on the outside. BPD people are also very afraid that someone else will hurt them and will often freak out if they see something wrong with their bodies(like a cut or bruise) and they will worry incessantly that this cut or bruise is what will cause the massive heart attack, stroke, cancer, etc. BPD people also need to be the center of attention and can be very jealous. Suicide attempts occur often, but usually the person knows exactly how many pills they can take without actually dying and how to call for help so once again the attention is on them. BPD people know how to turn one person against another and can be very skillful manipulators. Most BPD people are extremely inteligent and can talk their way out of anything (until they get to be known as someone who tries to talk their way out), yet do terribly in school and in social situations. Most were abused and abandoned as young children and most are women.

Having just one or two of these traits does not meant that you have BPD, having all these traits doesn't mean it either as mental health diagnoses often overlap each other.

Mental health diagnosis are over 5 axis. Axis one is amental health diagnosis like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. Axis 2 is the personality disorders like BPD, or histrionic personaltiy disorder...I think axis3 is medical diagnosis, axis 4 is socioeconomic factors like no money, no health insurance, being homeless, axis 5 would be the global asessment functinoal score. 100 is perfectinoand 0 is being dead. Most people in the psych hospitals for the short term would be at 65-80 (like some folks with heart disease will get depressed so axis 1 would be depression, axis 2 would be deferred because of no personality disorder, axis 3 would be heart disease, axis 4 would be loss of money due to no work due to heart disease ,and axis 5 would be a number representing how well the person is handling all this stress). Hope this answer helps you.

Take care of yourself!!!! This is not in any way a death sentence for you or your sis. Lots of people have overcome!!!

BPD responds extremely well to DBT therapy. I would also recommend exercise, good nutrition (no high fat sugar binges to feel momentarily better), and hobbies.

This is not uncommon for someone with BPD to be diagnosed as bipolar first.

BPD usually consists of very irregular and changing moods, and a "black and white" way of thinking. (As if there are only 2 possible ways something could be - good or evil, happy or sad, etc.).

It's a pretty controversial diagnosis. Look it up in some psych/med books at the library to get a better idea of the disorder.

One of my close friends from High School had Borderline Personality disorder - what a nightmare! She could not tell reality from the lies she told and, wow, she told a lot of them.

Your sister's problem will affect you just because she's your sister and you probably care about her.

You'll need to learn some tools to help you deal with it.

Maybe you should have a session with the psychologist to help you learn to deal with your sister's condition - how to help her, how to recognize when she's having a problem, how to deal with your feelings when she does stuff that impacts you.

i have bipolar with borderline traits and basically there is the splitting of the world in to black and white and all or nothing. They have huge fears of abandonment , cannont express anger very well and are impulsive. Typically a person who has bpd was abused earlier on in life or was invalidated.

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/bpd.html

this site also has a bit of info