What ideas do you have to help a mature woman have a successful Christmas wedding?

You won't be able to avoid the whole Christmas theme, so why not embrace it? Play carols along with your favorite romantic music. Ask the minister to talk about new life and family and how wonderful it is that you chose to declare your love and intentions on the day we remember God loving us so much as to become one of us.

If you do it in late morning, you can serve a light lunch... or if you do early afternoon, you can stick with finger foods and dessert. I love your color scheme! Maybe use holly and pine and all sorts of seasonal greenery as accents.

EDIT - in response to the whole timing issue... I'm sure you already realize that if you do get married on Christmas day, some people might feel like they have to choose between you and their family. Hopefully that won't be a problem, but you never know. I personally don't see it as taking away from Jesus. (Now if you got married on Easter, I might balk.)

While Christmas Day would not have been my first choice, I firmly beleive there is no bad day for a wedding of 2 people who love each other.

Here's a thought for a dress for you. It's a variation on a suit, and instead of cream it's a soft gold color.

http://www.chadwicks.com/clothing/Shirred-Beaded-J...

This gown, while it's shown in black, comes in ivory and may be a good dress for your daughter. It's your same colors, just switched.

http://www.chadwicks.com/clothing/Halter-Gown-with...

If you still want your fiance and his son in cream tux's with gold vests and ties. The flowers could be dark, dark red wine colored roses.

Menu: Keep it simple. Are there any foods that either of your families traditionally serve at the holiday? Would you rather have a wine and cheese cocktail hour? A small variety of wines, cheeses, crackers, fruit, a meat or two. Have some sparkling grape juice for those who prefer non-alcoholic.

Enjoy Your Day and Good Luck

First of all..Let me say CONGRATULATIONS and good for you!

Why don't you have a party in the clubhouse..If it's allowed..I think that would be beautiful!

Your choice of a tailored suit..sounds elegant

For the groom though why not a black tux with a white shirt and gold tie..(Just a thought)

In the morning people would be attending Christmas Mass..would you be able to get permission for the wedding during or directly after the mass..Only because people will probably be with their family and friends visiting Christmas day in the early afternoon..Whatever you decide..I'm sure everything will be absolutely beautiful! My Congratulations to you again! Juanna

Congratulations! Your question brought a smile to my face. Thanks for sharing and asking. My suggestion would be a nice late afternoon, early evening dinner time wedding. I would definitely take advantage of use of the club house. A wedding done by candle light. Not as difficult as it sounds. With the fire and a few special close friends and family. Some simple menu items (your favorites and his). I would go with someone playing the piano. Your color choices sound beautiful. It is your day, do what makes you happy. I Wish you the best God bless****

Do NOT get married on Christmas Day!!! People spend this day with their families and in church. How rude can you be to expect people to spend the day on you??

Whether or not Christ was "officially" born on Christmas Day or not, it is still a family holiday! Can you image telling you kids that they have to wait to open presents because we have to go to so-and-so's wedding? Most people will probably choose not to attend.

Sounds to me that you have it all together. Good luck to you

getting married christmas day is rude. it is Jesus's day, celebrate him and make him important that day.

if you are not religious, other people are, i would not be there if i was invited.