Daughter who is senior in high school moved out, now she wants her dad to enroll her in school.?

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She wants to go to school where she has since kindergarten but the school says she can't enroll herself, it costs $25 to enroll, plus she moved out because we caught her in lies that she wouldn't own up to and went to live at grandparents. Her mother says she has custody of her (even tho she lives in a different state). Does her dad have to enroll her? she says if he doesn't she won't finish school because she doesn't want to go where she lives--it's only about 10 miles from us and is legal for her to attend our school with her dad living in the district. I'm her stepmom and I had nothing to do with her leaving, but her dad is so caught up in her lieing, smoking, and then moving out, he doesn't know if she SHOULD enroll her or let her grow up on her own. She is a senior but doesn't have alot of common sense, otherwise she'd still be living here.

Update:

she will be 18 in Nov. The law says we can't make her come home, and she is a typical teen, doesn't listen to anyone and does what feels good at the time. The money is only an issue as she says she's "entitled" to our money.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

doesn't sound like she's worth the bother, let her get a taste of what life is all about.....responsiblity

Anonymous · Answer

If anything you should be encouraging her to go to school. Her father should enroll her in school, even if she has acted out in the past. If you want to help her an education is the best way. Also, teach her some responsibility and make her get a job for spending money (she could even pay the enrollment fee herself so it's her money that's wasted if she doesn't finish). It is the parents duty to instill responsibility and honesty in her and, obviously, thus far they have failed. Give her more responsibility around the house and make it clear that school is not just a place to "be" until you're 18. Encourage her to volunteer at a homeless shelter or even an employment agency so she can see where this path is leading.

kp · Answer

Where do you live?  I’m assuming it’s not the U.S., because as far as I’m aware no public school in the U.S. is allowed to charge a fee merely to enroll your child (although they can charges fees for other things).  Without knowing where you live, I don’t think anyone will be able to answer your ‘can he/does he have to’ questions.

But, I will address these items:  1)  Should he (if he’s allowed to) enroll her in school?  Absolutely.  Education is important in life, and by denying his child that, he’s merely hurting her more.  2)  I don’t know the entire situation, but I can’t help but wonder why he doesn’t go get his child (IF he has custody and if he doesn’t then she should be whoever does have custody), bring her home, and BE THE PARENT.  Sounds like she’s lying down the rules here.  As a minor, she doesn’t have the right to make the rules.

dave n · Answer

That will depend on her age. If she is under 18 one of her parents will be responsible for insuring she is in school because state law mandates it. Since she is in the same state as dad it falls to him. Give up the $25 since she wants to go to school let her. PS if she doesnt have a lot of common sense it is because no one taught her what common sense was or how to make good decisions, also dad or mom's responsibility

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Daughter who is senior in high school moved out, now she wants her dad to enroll her in school.?

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