Parents making children clean too much?

i think mom should still cook meals and do her own laundry.and help around the house no one person in a home should have to do more then anyone else.sharing a home and the work that goes with it is what makes a home other wise its like strangers sharing living space.

I had to do all that plus care for 3 younger siblings. My laundry work included the laundry for 8 people, so it wasn't a quickly done thing.

So long as Mom is spending time with the child as a result of the child doing that work, I think it's a reasonable split of duties. However, if the kid has to plow through mom's clutter in her own bedroom, that isn't really fair. That's her room, her job. All he should be doing is dusting and vaccuming in her room. On the plus side, this kid is getting a lot more responsibility than most of his friends and that will actually take him further in life.

Suggestion: get the book called "Speed Cleaning" by Jeff Campbell. Usually libraries have it. Helps speed up this stuff very efficiently.

I don't know there were five kids when I grew up and we all had to help my mom and dad because they worked they were not lazy but we did most of the house cleaning and stuff like that because they were working me and my older sister would start dinner and the younger ones did the dishes I guess it depends on the family dynamic. I don't know about one child having too do all that work it does seem like a lot but, what are the hours that the mother is working? Maybe there could be a compromise some where?

My children both help out in the house, the only thing i ever ask them to do is to pick up their rooms, ( they dont like it when mommy does it, I throw evertthing on the floor away :) )

I put a list of everything i need to do on the fridge, and without asking they do half of the list. I see it as helping out the familly. they need to do these things when they are older so why not learn from a young age........ IF They make the mess they should help clean it or keep it clean.......

I was cooking and cleaning for my dad at 11. FULL TIME. While my mom did nothing.

What is wrong with children showing responsibility.

i don't have enough details to answer that, but here is another scenario.

single mom of 5 children, works two full time job, one night and one day. children are required to clean, cook, dishes, laundry etc. mom comes home sleeps what hours she can to get up and go back to work, rarely does any house work (one job is a 12 hour shift, other is an 8 hour shift)

is that fair?

of course not, no mom should have to work those two jobs, but she did because she wanted to provide for us after she kicked her husband out for abusing us and her.

so in some situations i think kids should be expected to do the brunt of the house work, is it fair? no, but who said life is fair?????

on the other hand, i am a stay at home mom and i have my kids in charge of emptying the bathroom garbages, and cleaning their toy room. i also make them take the books and toys they bring downstairs back to the toy room. but because i had to do so much as a child, i hate to ask them to do anything.

but that probably isn't good either, they need to learn some sort of responsibility.

I think every parent has to decide that for themselves. My son is 11 and he does have chores. Perhaps I grew up in a different area than most, because when I was growing up we lived out in the country, where most of the boys worked on farms where they mowed, baled hay, fed the animals and stuff like that. I don't live on a farm now, but my son does have chores around the house. The only chores\ that he has to do on a daily basis is to feed and water the dogs. Other than that it is simply whatever we ask him to do at that moment. If that is do a sink of dishes, fold a basket of laundry, throw some clothes in the washer, clean his room, or take out the trash, then I really don't think that I am expecting him to do that much. He usually does a half-a** job of it anyways so it isn't like he has to do tons of chores. I have seen kids who were never expected to do chores, turn out to be lazy adults, so I don't want that for my kids.

Im a single mom of three. 17, 14, and 13. My kids have chores they rotate. Dishes, vacumming, sweeping, bathroom, and trash. They also do their own laundry. But they do not do mine. Now on the days Im off I do the housework. I feel like whatever they mess up they should clean up. I dont think im giving them too much to do. But this is divided between three kids, not all left to one. Education and studying are also more important than my house being clean.

Sounds excessive and sounds like the kid isn't getting enough attention, support or parenting from the mom.

Mom has an art room, yet kid sleeps in the attic?

And does the kid know how to balance his or her meals? The mom should be part of the cooking daily to make sure the kid is eating healthily.

I think that's a lot of work for a daily routine. My kids have to clean their rooms a couple times a week and they help me pick up about 2 times a week. The rest of the time I do the cleaning. There's nothing wrong with kids helping around the house as long as they have time to be kids, too.

That sounds like a great deal of work for a child but if they are doing it for you, then you be real good to them! This child did not ask for you to be a single parent; you arranged the circumstances they are forced to live in. Your attitude seems to be, "with all this work I have because I am a single parent this child owes me this amount of work!". It should be, "how can I make their life great even though I have limited resources, time and we are not an intact family?"