As a parent or grand parent ,In your opinion...?

Horribly mean.

One is afraid of the upbringing they are going to give that baby.

Also very shortsighted:not realizing how THEY will feel when before too long they will become grandparents themselves

and THEY would be excluded from such an important, happy event.

It depends. If the other friends were called before you or after you. Sometimes younger people and friends can get to the hospital first because they are FASTER than older people and maybe they live closer.

In that case, I don't think it is wrong that find the friends at the hospital before the parents as long as the parents were called first.

I do think they should have called you when they were on their way to the hospital, and this is the NORM. HOWEVER, maybe the baby was seriously on its way quickly. Maybe mom was in no condition to call you and dad was such a nervous wreck that he could only focus on driving. This DOES happen!!! And they don't allow cell phones in a hospital.

So, please relax. If your kids love you - then don't judge them too harshly. Enjoy your grandkid and make this a wonderful experience for everyone. You know, not everyone is perfect or has perfect manners - you must be willing to forgive and forget. That is what being a grandparent is all about!!!

I think its horrible. Parents and grandparents should be the 1st to share the joy of a new birth before friends of theirs. I am a grandmother of 6 and live 1200 miles away from 3 of them and was there for the birth of the 1st one and only hours away for the other 2. Nothing is more special. The 3 near me are my step-childrens babies and we were there shortly after the children were born. We gave hospital wait time to the other grandparents. Only because we felt we needed to.

Family should come first regardless where they are at and what kind of relationship you have with them.

When I had my son in 99', my in-laws was in Sacramento, so we made sure to call them when we arrived at the Hospital to let them know it's the "big" day. I don't have a wonderful relationship with my mother, but she was there with me when I went into labor. It was her choice if she wanted to stay in the delivery room or not. She decided to stay out instead, while my husband and best friend was close by.

I'll be having my second child in March. This time around my inalws will be coming down to stay with us for a few months so I'm sure they will want to be in the delivery room with us and my mom most likely would wait outside again.

let me say i have 4 kids and 4 grand kids and i was there for all 4 my son made sure and i was there and her mom did not even come at all until the next day ,so from my personal experence i would be hot that is a part of you being born and it is a beautiful time that is for family and you never get tired of it no matter how many times it is each time is and will be different and i would be upset that i didnt get to see my grand child born no matter if it the first or twenty-first

well that depends on the relationship with the family. as you know giving birth is traumatic and maybe they just wanted to make sure everything was ok. maybe the friends just showed up. maybe they wanted to get the friends out of the way so that from now on could be family time. i am a parent and a grandparent, i dont really think it would bother me because i would get to be in the babys life forever. when i had my kids the last people i wanted around were my family. but thats another story. respect their decision and enjoy the new little person.

I am a parent and a grandparent with four children and five grandchildren. Although we are their parents and part of their family we do not get to make decisions for them anymore. Your children chose to do it this way for some reason that you don't really know. If your feelings are hurt by their decision you can certainly express that to them. However, you might find you that if you just embrace the fact that you have a new grandchild to love and adore you might get more invitations to do so. This is your children's moment in the sun to be the proud new parents. Celebrate with them!

Well I think it wrong, but I also think it's kinda right. I think it's kinda right because probably they don't want to worry you during work or a meeting. Then the parents and grandparents would be all worried and stressed out. Or they might want to surprise you or something. But I think it's mostly wrong because every child should tell their parents everything. Honestly, it would just make them worry more. Or probably they didn't treat he/she well and he/she just forgot about their parents/grandparents. I would worry alot and stress out about why she/he didn't tell me. I would think that is just very wrong.

tell them when are going to the hospital

Not a good daughter or son if they behave in this matter.