I am so sad?

Its not a bad thing. you'll be fine because its not like he going to war and maybe never see him again. hes doing because he has some problems and this is mybe alot better then him staying home and getting into trouble I'll bet hell be fine. My older brother and his best friend left two years ago to Iraq things are better now but how do you think my mom felt.

i think you did the right thing even though it does not seem like it now.maybe your son needed a new environment, a fresh start where nobody knew who he was or what he did or could judge him, and where he could have better friends. i know that this is going to be a hard time yet now you need to be happy for him and not for him to see or hear you cry. if you are happy for him he is going to be happy and eventually solve what problems that he was causing or dealing with and maybe have a new start. you guys could see each other every so often yet think of the reward in the long run:your son will be a better person and all the sacrifice was worth it. my family except my 11 year old brother-was born here in US- are from Romania and in 1990 my dad came to see my uncle and that was the last time i saw him until 1995: he left when i was 6 and when he came back i was 11..i know how that feels because my dad went 5 years of not seeing his 2 daughters and when he finally saw us he could not recognize how different we looked..your boy will go through phases of becoming even more taller, learning how to drive and i know that you want to be there for him but maybe he does not have to be there the rest of his high school years.

The same thing happend to my mom when I left for only a month at university in a dorm over the summer. The worst part was we were having money problems and I didn't even know about it. I personally had fun and was sad at times cause the classes were very hard, but it certainly helped me to grow and experience what else life has to offer. It ur only problem is that he'll be far away and nothing else, ur shouldn't cry for too long. Remember, God doesn't give anyone a task they can't handle, k. You'll be alright as well as your son. Good luck and may God bless you. ^_^

16--having trouble and you think sending him away is going to change all of this?? Legally he has to get a court order to move with an approved guardian--without this your son has no guardian and will be removed from school. Socially--what the heck is the problem?? Why is he even allowed to be a problem?? Did you ever try a thing called tough love--sit his butt down and straighten him out about home and school rules?? You just watch how much trouble he is in a new school system--running wild because mommy just let him do whatever he wanted to do. And if bullies were the issue--sorry--get him karate lessons--life is tough all over--somebody better get their act together. Be a parent--a parent does not abandon their kids--I don't believe this whole story.

I am yet to go through this as my oldest is only 13yr old. I can understand your sadness but maybe if you look at it as though this will be a new start for a happier life in a new place. It is a shame he had so many problems that he had to go. Too be upset is natural and you will probably have a few teary days but just be as supportive as you have been and knowing how much you love your son should get you through. Good luck and hope the sadness lessens for you. Just wait for his phone calls to ease your pain.

Hi friend,

I understand your feelings perfectly. I have 4 kids and the eldest is 12 years old. But I always dread the day when one by one they will begin to leave nest. However as difficult as it is, we have to accept that this is the cycle of life. It would be extremely selfish on our part if we restrain their growth by clinging to them. That's why I find your action very admirable because as much as it is making you so sad & (making you cry), your unconditional love and concern for his welfare prevailed. My advise is to find other hobbies to spend the day. Hey, your son is only 9 hours away. With celfone accessible anywhere now, you can always keep in touch with him. Give him the chance to fly away and explore on his own. But if you're a loving parent, chances are your son will not fly far. And he will always come back to visit you.

Running from your problems doesn't work, and your son needs to know that. You are his parent, and for that exact reason YOU need to be responsible for guiding him in the right direction. Allowing him to run away to his aunt is only going to distance you, and he might later hold a grudge for your willingness to let him go.

Any problems can be worked on at home, and doesn't require 9 hours of distance to be resolved. You obviously feel sad for a reason. Good luck.

you have a right to be sad. Just remember that your doing what is best for your son because you love him. If he has a computer also you can set up web cams that way you can see him every day as well as talk to him on the phone. Might make you feel better.

WOW! THAT IS SAD AND HARD TO DEAL WITH! BUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS CALLED "TOUGH LOVE". A MOTHER DOES ANYTHING THAT CAN MAKE HER CHILD'S LIFE BETTER. EVEN IF THAT MEANS BEING DISTANT FROM THEM. I SUGGEST THAT IF HIS AUNT HAS A COMPUTER THAT YOU ALL INVEST IN A WEBCAM AND MICROPHONE. THAT WAY IT SAVES ON LONG DISTANCE OR YOU DO NOT HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL A CERTAIN TIME WHEN YOU HAVE FREE MINUTES ON THE CELL PHONE. BUT WITH A MIC AND CAM AT LEAST YOU WILL BE ABLE TO SEE AND TALK TO HIM EVERYDAY WHILE HE IS GONE TO MAKE YOU FELL AS IF HE WAS THERE. THERE IS NO EASY WAY TO DEAL WITH IT. KEEP YA HEAD UP AND PRAY TO GOD ABOUT IT!! GOD DOES NOT PUT US THROUGH ANYTHING THAT WE CANNOT HANDLE REMEMBER THAT!! I ALWAYS LIKED TO THINK OF THIS PHRASE..."I AM TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED". MEANING THAT THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON AND IT IS A PART OF GOD'S PLAN. HE WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR SON!! ALSO, THINK OF THAT FOOTPRINTS POEM. WHEN THERE IS ONLY ONE SET OF FOOTPRINTS AND YOU THINK YOU ARE WALKING ALONE, IT IS NOT YOUR FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND BUT GOD'S AND HE WAS CARRYING YOU TO SEE YOU THROUGH THOSE TIMES!! HOPE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL A LITTLE BETTER!!

It's natural!!

My mommy and daddy were afraid to let me move out. I only moved 12 miles away too! haa haa

They called me everyday!

Just be supportive of him, he'll eventually get tired of not having his mother right there by his side, and then he'll move back. [at least that's what I did]

oo! Also, make him a little bit jealous. seriously. let him know that you are having fun, even if you are sitting on the couch crying your eyes out, tell him you are doing good... having fun.

he'll be jealous.