How can I stop being so angry and bitter towards my ex?

the bitterness just hurts u, not her. forgive her, doesn't mean she deserves it just means u will be set free from any More expectations from her. get some self help group therapy where there will be others going through the same problems, they will help u to face reality. u can't undo the past, but u do have a choice with what happens in your future. your not hurting her, only yourself. bitterness will effect every future relationship u go into, and mess it up. sometimes we have to put the past where it belongs, and focus on the future, and the life we have left.life is way too short to live in ones past, if u do it Will not allow u to move into the future.

Normally, the anger and bitterness comes from you having a lot of things still pent up inside of you. In some way, you need to express these feelings so that you can move on from this.

Write a letter (or email) expressing why you are still angry and bitter. Be graphic if need be.

DO NOT SEND IT!!! Instead, put it in an envelope and dig a small hole somewhere. Drop that letter inside and fill up the hole. This symbol gives the idea of putting those angry feelings "to rest" .

Sounds weird but it really can help.

I always loved the Serenity Prayer: God, Grant us the serenity to accept the things we can not change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

You will not stop being angry and bitter towards your ex until you can come to terms and accept it. That doesn't mean that you have to accept that she did what she did for you to feel that way. That just means that you accept that it happened, that you accept that you have no control over her behavior, and that you can let it go. When you think about what she did and why you are so hurt, think about what you can do to let it go. Will talking about it help? Will owning your part in it help? Yes. Both of those things will. Then, there is time. Time will also help to alleviate the anger. But, it will go quicker if you quit feeling like the victim and realize that you can do so much better!

I don't have the answer, I don't have the problem, mine is the other way. I wish my ex could find someone or something to make her happy. She is miserable, she makes our children not want to visit due to her constant unhappiness. But like the divorce decree says I enforce the Parenting Plan. If you get a real good answer please publish it because there are millions of us that could use any information on how to treat our x's. Some us us still care, even if the love and trust is gone. How do you quit completely on someone that at one time they were the center of your universe?

Yeah everyone is saying forgive. That is a great start. I hate to tell you but the only thing that will help you is time.

After you go through all the stages you will realize the only one you are hurting by being angry is yourself.

She could give a crap less that you are mad. Get even and be happy...... harder than it sounds

That one really is a toughy. I say better yourself the best you can. Move on and start mingling with others of the opposite sex. Enjoy being single again. Go out with your friends and have lots of fun. The more she has space in your head means she is winning. You will eventually get over that anger.

Forgive her and move on. A person can forgive and not forget, remember that forgiveness is for you not her. All things of the heart take time and just realize that for whatever reason you can't change another and therefore realized that you have to move on. Good Luck

repeating a mantra 10 times a day..... for example:

Over, Done, Gone, Forget it.

after a few weeks or so the bitterness and the anger subsides.

Contemplate why you are angry with your ex, determine it's not important and let it go. You are holding on to something that is causing this anger.

By holding on to anger and bitterness....you are keeping yourself stuck....Once you let go of those negative feelings you will be free and will be able to move on with your life....You have to forgive her....not for her....but for yourself....