does moving out of my parents' house means i am running away from responsibilities?

well, in the american culture, it's quite alright to move out and be on your own. independence is a good thing.

you're really not responsible to take care of your parents, either... maybe your culture says so, though?

there comes a point in everyone's lives where they have to take care of themselves! this is what you're doing -- taking care of YOU... and i agree, it sounds as if you'd be better off.

you are definitely not a brat.

In the U.S, still living at home at 21 would be a bit of an EXTENDED stay! I have 7 children, and yes I do believe family is everything. However my eldest son moved out at 19 (THANK GOD) and my 17 is already in College, and living on campus more than 1600 miles from home! I'm just waiting on next year when my 16 year old daughter turns 17 and goes off to school!

I understand what you are saying about not having personal space... We all need it.

Just continue to be supportive of your family, visit, help out when needed etc.. I am sure everyone will learn to understand your need for personal privacy.

Well Move...I Don't See A Big Deal. You Will Be Visiting. Just As Long You Don't Abandoned Your Love Ones...Go Be Independent-It's A Good Thing.

You're not running away from your responsibilities. Since you are 21, you can take care of yourself and can move anywhere that you want. If you move out, it doesn't mean that you wouldn't take care of your parents because you can stop in at times and see what they need, and since you said that family is very important to you all, they should understand and support your decision if that was infact what you wanted to do. Good Luck and I hope that you make the best decision that you are comfortable to.

It depends on how individual see things. For me, I think it is good to be independant and there is nothing wrong in moving out of your parents house. In fact you can prove to your parents that you can be independant yourself. But the thing is that you need to convince tour parents and family that this is a right decision and not a wrong decision.

You are 21 years old and I think it would be okay if you moved out. Just tell your family that you love them and will still be apart of there lives and will be there if they need you. You can't live your life for your family members. You have to do whats best for you. I say go for it!

You are abandoning nothing. Your sister must not have the means to do the same herself, and is afraid of doing everything alone. Just let her know that you will still be there, but your life is yours to do with what you want, and you need to have some space of your own.

personally, i think when a person moves out you gain responsibilities...more so than lose. My brother is 22 and just moved out, and now he has to budget his money so he can pay his bills. He is al ot more responsible now than he ever was before. If you were leaving for a completely different country that is one thing, but you can still visit them in Singapore...

I think your sister might be upset that your moving out

I don't think you are running away from the responsibility. As long as you are there for them when they need help. You might find you want to help out/visit more once you are happier with your own living space too.

You are legally an adult, and free to leave. Don't let anyone guilt you into staying. Lots of people help take care of elderly family members w/o actually living with them full-time.