I'm 17. Every day, my mom yells at me for having no friends. Is that psychologically damaging behavior?

It sounds like it already is doing some damage if you are yelling back at your mom. That's just a sad situation. Your mom just isn't trying to understand you and accept you for who you are at all. If she had your best interest at heart , she would talk to you about her concerns and respect what you say. I think she is having her own issues about your behavior, frankly. That shouldn't have to be your problem. You should not have to suffer for that.

Yes, I think it could harm your self-esteem to have her , first of all yell at you , and second of all, hold you up in a negative light to her own expectations as if you are failing her in some way. And third to talk about you to your Dad so that you can hear it is really rude and harmful, calling you abnormal.

You need to talk to your dad and get him to tell her to stop. It is really not a good situation for you.

Anything can be psychologically damaging. Try not to let her insecurities bother you. Does she have a lot of friends??? Most people only have a few (no more than 7 over a liftime) close friends. So don't worry about it. If YOU are worried join a club or have a party--put yourself out there. When your mom yells, remind her that she is not helping matters by making you insecure (even if ur not, it will effect her). Many mom suck, you can still turn out alright.

You understand what is occurring and have it analyzed well.

The problem for you, as I see it is you are being impacted, by your mom's, "psychological problem". Is she a drinker ?

One of the things you see, is that people who have mental problems will push those that they love away by there abusive behavior. They are not aware of what they are doing.

I read your questions, an would assure you that their is nothing abnormal that I see, unless you see intelligence as abnormal. I do understand why you don't have a lot of close friends. I would think not many of your age think on the same level as you.

I would suggest that you see yourself in preparation for adulthood, and moving out asap, and moving on with your adult life. Getting a job would be a good start, and get you out of the house.

I don't think it will harm you because you seem to have enough awareness and self-confidence.

However, you should adivse her that at 17, many of the people you MIGHT hang with are into stuff that you don't want to be associated with.

OTOH, for a male, making friends is somewhat traditionally difficult, and so maybe she's worried that you'll be a loner, or become too dependent on a girlfriend, for example.

forget your mom sweetie. what, does your mom want you to be going out ALL the time and like getting into trouble? thats what usually happens with people ur age. i can see your moms "concern" but

dont mind her, she probally rambles on forever and it seems like she controls your life. Your 17. Next year your noone can stop you from anything. Relax and be proud of what you do!

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You are probably a lot more normal than a lof of kids who do nothing but hang out at the mall Learn to be yourself, and be proud of it.

If you recognize how irrational she is, it won't harm you that much. But hearing this nutty diatribe every day will wear at you. I'm sorry that your father isn't putting his foot down more and telling your mother to back off.

Yes, it can.

You're Mom needs to chill out. So maybe you don't have any buddies around you 24/7, but she needs to let you choose and have as many friends as you like. It's not like she can choose them for you!

Same my mom dose this all the time she keep on saying that why do you have any friend once I was at the mall and she yelling at me and saying why do you have any friend in trying to abuse me and I told her I do have friends goodness I don't like my mom

your mom sounds like a douche, tell her to accept your individuality and that her behavior isn't going to solve anything or change your introverted personality.