Is my husband right??? please give your advise...?

Well I pay 300 in rent myself so I know how your son will feel. I am 22 but make a decent amount of money.

The answer to this question lies i think in the reasoning. When my parents started charging my brother rent at 300, it was because they wanted to encourage him to go back to school in which they wouldn't charge him rent.

In my situation they are charging me rent just because they charged him and fair is fair although it makes it harder for me to save up.

To be honest charge him 300, take 100 of it without your son knowing and put it in an account in which when he moves out it will be like a little moving out gift.

This should appease your husband in the sense that your son will get the " I am now a man" treatment" and make you happy because mom is still helping out.

If you sat down and did a search on craigslist or in your local paper, what would be the numbers that would come up for renting a room in your area? I'd say, if you take this number and reduce it by like 20%-30%, it would be about fair to charge a family member for rent. In our area, if I was to try and rent a room right now, I would be paying anywhere from $400-$450 and up (plus utilities), depending on the place. I wouldn't find anything for $300. So it kind of depends on you and your husband to determine what would be fair to charge your son, and also what would make most sense. Are you in dire financial straights? Is he? Does he actually *try* to save money, or does he blow any extra money he has? $10/hr isn't that bad for a 20-year-old, and $300 in rent is really very reasonable. But he is a family member, of course - so if he's doing his part in being responsible and saving money, and if you can afford it, I don't see why you can't cut him an even bigger "slack" to help him get on his feet. I'm sure your husband is not trying to be mean - he likely has his reasons to feel that this particular amount is fair. You have to look at your situation as a whole, and come up with a solution that both you and your husband can be happy with.

What utilities are included in the $300 rent? Electricity, water, sewage, trash, heat? If he has access to your phone, that's a bill he doesn't have to pay on his own. Same with laundry, that's saving him quite a bit being able to use your laundry. I would imagine that since he has access to the whole house, he can watch your cable/satellite/what ever TV, and probably uses your internet access to, right? If so, more bills he isn't having to pay on his own, so what, exactly, is the rest of his paycheck going to? Is he working full time, getting about 40 hours a week? That makes his paycheck approximately $1600 a month before taxes(sometimes more, some months are 5 weeks instead of 4), so what else is he paying for? If you want your husband to reduce the rent, you should present it in a logical manner, have your son make up a budget that lists all his expenses and present that to your husband if it is proven that the $100 reduction on his rent is needed.

I was on disability when I was 18 and on Medicaid. I received $500 a month and paid my mom $350 for room and board. She helped me with budgeting, showed me how to pay my bills and save money. I was finally able to find a job a little over a year later and was able to get rid of SSA Benefits.

I never once complained because my apartment alone was $550 a month! This didn't include, phone, car payments, auto insurance, food, gas, my cat's expenses, etc. I was making about $11 an hour full time and I was able to make ends meet!

Your son has it easy. Because I had a disability, it was limiting on what types of jobs I can do. I'm sure if you son wanted more spending money, he could get a better paying job or work a second job.

Kids are way too lazy and spoiled these days. Parents need to teach children how to become independent and leave the nest. Not enable them and hinder their chances on being successful.

Actually I agree with your husband ... $300 is more than fair. Lets put it this way ... if your son lived on his own and rented an efficiency of his own paying about $300 per mth then also he would have to pay light and water and phone and groceries, gas for his car and essentials. He would have paid out of pocket a lot more than what he makes and would eventually be living with you again. $300 is not even tipping the barrell so to speak. It helps him in the end and if careful with his money he can save a lot of money.

I truly wish your son the best luck in the world. May all our kids turn out to be 10xs better financially and otherwise!!!!

$300 is less than half of what he would be paying if he were iin an apartment anywhere else. PLUS... he has the extra benefits of food, laundry, phone and probably cable without extra expenses. He is trying to teach him responsibility by making him pay at least part of his way. If you continue to coddle him and make excuses for him then he will never leave as he knows that you ill always be there to give him what he wants without working for it. Even my 13 year old has to earn his own money for sports gear and extra activities. He is currently making $10 an hour which is more than a lot of people are making and they are scraping by on minimum wage. Get him to some financing classes to help him budget and set a goal for him to be out. I am a widowed mother of 4 (ages 3-13) and we live on $1900 a month. There is no reason a healthy 20 year old single male couldn't make it on $1600 + maybe get a second job.

I think the best thing to do is for the your son to pay some of the electric and heating/cooling cost and every now and then pitch in for food, and then add another $100 on top. So yes I think $200.00 is fair espically if he is only work for a job that pays $10/hr. You don't want him to save and every father wants whats best for the kids but at the same time they usually don't want them home so tell if you if you want your son to one day move out then we need to lower the price so that he can save money and we can house the house all to our self (being very sexy which usually gets the mans attention and makes it so the women gets what she wants. This is hard because no mother wants to kid there kids out and fathers are ususally "you have to learn sooner or later and you better of learning it sooner." I Agree with you 100% I don't think that I could ever charge my children rent expect to help out iwth electric and heating and cooling. When I say help out I would say (unless on he has his own seperate bill) then I would tell my children whatever they could afford a month or $40.00 a month (depending on your bill). Good luck with the hubie

I think it really depends on what the market in your area for similar accomodations is. If you are in rural kentucky, it's wayyyyy too much. If you are in Los Angeles, it's totally fair. Regardless of fairness, the two of you need to be in total agreement on the amount. Try to come up with a compromise where neither person feels like they have "lost". As my father always said to my mother regarding step children, "This may be a problem for us, but it isn't a problem between us." Either way, if you don't personally need the money, it might be a good idea to save at least a portion of the money for him as a sort of enforced savings plan. Kids often come around looking for money later in life, and if you have this little pool set up for him already, it won't create any more tension between you and your hubby. Alternatively, you can give him back that money to help with a downpayment on a home. Lots of parents do that, if it is within their means. But again, it needs to be total agreement between you and your spouse.

No, it's not fair. Son is being grossly under charged. Rent, utilities, phone and inter-net, laundry, and fridge access- with meals. For $75 per week. UNLESS your son is going to college, and working too. If he's just working and living at home, your husband is being MORE than reasonable. At $10 per hour, some people are not just paying their own rent- they are struggling to support families. Letting your son live in a dream world, where he can afford to live and have money to spare, without doing what is necessary to earn good money, just ensures that your son will come to believe the world owes him a living.

How about still taking 300 but putting up a 100 that way you know he is saving it. Talk to your husband about that and he should agree with you. I dont see why he wouldnt. And I think in the long run your husband asking 300 outta him will pay off because not everyone will favor him like you are doing. He's giving him tough love and sometimes thats what people need. Because in FL just to move in somewhere it cost about 1200-1600. Including deposit, lights to get cut on, sometimes first and last months rent. Thats just starting off not including rent, lights, water, gas and groceries every month.