I need to ask again... An old friend's child died... What would you do???

Do send them a card -- sympathy is never out of place. Even though you don't know his wife, you can still feel her pain and loss, and to extend your sympathy and caring to them would be a kindness.

I lost a son. It's OK to send a card. I lost alot of "friends" during this period because they didn't know what to do or say and just did nothing. The best thing was I found out who truly cared for us at that time. People don't know what to do, but at a time like that people want to know others care. If it is bothering you so much now, think how you will question it the rest of your life if you do nothing! Let your friend know that you care! His wife will not mind, believe me--she has other things to worry about right now.

Depending on how long ago the child passed depends on your gesture...

If it was recent, just give them time, or send a simple "thinking of you" card....a deli tray was a life saver...we were in no shape to prepare food....

Don't press for details or attempt to gain information that is hurtful.

Remember after this kind of loss, the parent is not really going to be "there". When my daughter passed, so many people came to the funeral, and came and spoke to me, but I can barely remember anyone....

Sending sincere condolences is never unappreciated. Just send the card. Don't include a phone number or anything like "call me sometime". Just the card. Say sorry for his loss. Leave it at that.

Sending a card is totally appropriate.

Send your condolences. The past doesn't matter when the present is so painful for them. They need all the support they can get right now. It would matter to him even more to know that your thoughts are still with him after all this time. Don't worry about his wife being offended...she has much more pressing things on her mind right now.

A card would not be inappropriate. Just say, "My condolences to your family on your loss" or something similar. I'd leave out the "heart ache" bit. Your heart probably doesn't ache as much as his.

I don't think it would hurt to send a card...addressed to both of them. I wouldn't be upset about a old high school girlfriend sending a card because it was high school and you were only kids then.

Why is this such an issue? Send the card. I think right now the wife can give thre flying rats about who you are. They have more powerful emotions to deal with.

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