help! any advice to help with toddler tantrums?

She's out of sorts because of the new addition so don't discipline her for that. Also disciplining a tired toddler doesn't work (if she's screaming and crying it won't work, just give her time out so that it won't escalate). Ask another relative with more time on their hands to spend quality time with her while you get adjusted. It might just be that she is feeling a little neglected.

Your daughter is probably acting out because she might not like the fact that Mommies attention is being given to the new baby. I'm not sure if ignoring her tantrums would be the best way to deal with it since she already feels that she isn't getting enough attention. Some things you could try is getting her actively involved in taking care of the baby. Ask her to get things for you, etc. Tell her what a great job she is doing to help with the baby and how happy you are that she is. Make her feel like the second Mommie of the new baby. Also you should try to have someone (husband) help out with the baby once a day for an hour or so where you can give your complete attention to her and something she would like to do. Good luck

My son ued to throw tantrums. I found the most effective eay of dealing with him, was to 'actively' ignore him. If he started I would turn away from him. or if appropriate ad safe to do so, I would take him out of the room and leave him in the hallway then go back in and sit down. I wouldnt talk to him at all while he was doing this. Its really important that he doesnt see that he is getting to you, because then he is getting the attentionthat he wants. Its really hard to stick with, but if you can it is really effective. The time to use distraction is if he were hurting himself, like headbutting the floor or hitting himself, because self harming is something that I dont think you can ignore.

You say it started after the birth of your second child. I was just wondering if you let him join in when you are feiding the baby or when you are bathing. I always found that helped when my youngest was born.

Hope I have helped a little

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hi I have 3 girls 2 who are 18 months apart i had the same issues your out of sorts you just gave birth and things always seam hard at first your first child feels she has been repalced so youhave to manage your time a little when baby sleeps take No1 alone rest and read play or chat when baby wakes involve her with changing and feeding she will soon see thet by screaming she does not get your attention but by helpning and involvins she can have the best of both if your partner is about as hime to deal with the baby while you take no 1 for some mummy daughter time it does help and take to her make her feel impoortant big sister things mine stopped withing 2 days

This is a hard one because she is acting out because she wants attention. The 124 Magic video/book works very good but I think she might be a little young. Whatever you do it is all about consistency only do what you can stick with. It does get better mine are 22 months apart and are now 3 & 5.

I think ignore every tantrum.Reward good behaviour and make sure she gets some just her and mummy time.I have to do this soon no 2 due in June (a boy) and my daughter will be 2 and 2 months.So easy in practise I'll find out if its easy for real soon all the best and congrats on your family xx

My daughter went off the wall when it came to temper! When their screaming and rolling about the floor its hard to ignore but weather your in the house or in the shops when your wee one starts ignore them complete. Just keep an eye out make sure they don't hurt themselves. After they realise that tantrums don't get the attention it used to they stop. It might take a while but keep at it.

I love the Supernanny books. Just remember to remain calm, it helps the situation to diffuse quicker and be sure to stick to your guns on the consequences. I usually tell my daughter, "if you want to throw a fit you can do it in time-out" and when she shouts "NO" back at me I'll tell her "Then you need to calm down" and I proceed with a distraction of some sort. Good luck, parenting is one of life's hardest jobs. :)

I'm English and have no idea what a dd1 or a dd2 is?? Also, what is a dh? I sometimes think I'm on another planet, nevermind in another country ...

a naughty spot or step helps. if they move of it put um back on it. works for my 4 yr old and 27 month old.

put um away from toys explain y they are there and get keep doing what they have done and have to sit there for 2 minutes.