How do I get over my xwife?

You were married for a long time, and despite the fact that it didn't work, it's hard to get a person you care about out of your system as important. I am divorced as well, and it's taken both my ex and me about 4-5 years before we let someone in our lives as a lover, etc. I'm not saying it will take that long for you, everybody is different. I hope that you will in time meet someone that will help you move on from an important period in your life, and love your children as well. There are women like this that exist. Good, luck. You WILL get over her, and a lot of it depends on your ability of putting your ex in a "sister" category ,where you both parent your children and care about each other. Then one day you'll meet another woman that could be a lover. Let's pray for sooner rather than later, but yes, it will take as long as it needs to. The more you are willing to date even nice women, the quicker you will find someone.

Take care.

Diane

Well I don't know why you got divorced, but I do know from my own personal experience that it can take up to 1/2 of the total time that you were together in order to get over your mate. That's 6 years for you so give yourself sometime. Does she still feel the same way for you? I hope the divorce wasn't done prematurely. If so, maybe you can reconcile. I know of a couple who got married 3 times and divorced 2 times before they finally got it right. And today, they are happy as can be. Get some therapy for yourself. You're not crazy, but you do need someone to help you cope with this. Best of luck to you.

Divorce is a hard process for a person . With the length of time invested you probably miss the ideas of forever more than her. You can not find happiness until you pick yourself p and start again. Life is going to go on, you might as well try to find a new plan. Get out and meet people. Learn who you are. After being with her that long, You were integrated with her. Find you inside apart from you.

You'll be fine!

I know it is hard to get over when you love someone so much. I was with my ex 17 years when we seperated, and I think that I might not ever find someone to love like I loved him. You need to think of yourself though have you talked to her does she have the same feelings its hard to tell when we don't know the whole story. Also just give it time, and you will find someone that you can love again. Why rush it just relax and wait for it to happen and along the way maybe think about why your marraige didn't work in the first place so that your next relationship will be better. I know it is hard, but just stick with your family and friends and it will get easier as time passes. Just remember that you will always have a connection with her because of the children. Maybe she has moved on so maybe its time to let her go. Good Luck.

Remember just why you both got a divorce. Life isn't easy but stopping living cuz one another isn't ever living. It is over with maybe I said maybe you will get back together as some do but don't sat around waiting go on with your life there is so many other woman out there an not for nothing your not seeing them as your waiting for someone who might never come back first stay along give yourself some time to get back to being you first be the best father you can be than when you think your ready get back into dating but always remember woman come and go but your children will always be there for you

Sure you will..... when you feel like you've had enough pain. Right now, you love, LOVE the pain, and wallowing in self pity... and you can continue this way for year. Lots of people do. What a waste.

Get yourself a few sessions of counseling, hon, and get your head back on straight.... when you get sick of the misery, you'll be fine...

And life with an appropriate partner is the only way to live, for sure. And there are literally thousands of lovely women out there who are as well 'free', and don't really want to be. Try some of the sites on line. Lovely women, and of course a few nut cases just like those sitting next to you in church.

You don't say what broke you up but my ex divorced me two years ago after 18 years together. Its been hard, really hard but it is getting easier every day. Have I been out with anyone else, no. But if the right person comes along I am open for it.

Don't try to find any one else right now. It takes time you need to heal yourself. Just enjoy your children, join a fitness club. But stay out of relationships right now cause it is not fair to the person you meet. Good luck hang in there. One day at a time.

I am in the same situation and believe me it's really hard to get over her but it is possible, only time will help you find another woman. Remember that there is a reason you two are not together anymore.

Being in love with someone that no longer wants you and has moved on with there life can be painful. just give it time after all you did share 12 years and have beautiful children together. Let God be your match maker, allow him to held your wounds, he may not be early but he is never late.