How can we keep our full pensions if we get married in Canada. We are both seniors. Solutions?

Oh my! That makes no sense for me! But I'm not in North America... Why would you loose part of your pension because of marrieage.

Oh well.. My sugestion!

If you're worried with "living in sin" why don't you get a pastor or priest (I don't know your religion so please insert the correct term) to bless your union and leave the legal aspect alone?

My godfather was really upset with me and bf having "sex explorations" as he would put it, before the wedding, so when he was sure we were serious about our relation, he asked a priest that is a friend to bless us, so he could be at peace until we get married. (next September)

All the luck and lots of blessings!

My dear Ms. Canada. So you don't want to lose your pensions, yet you want to marry? What is a Canadian to do, you ask. Before you just move in together and live in sinful bliss, check with the laws of your province. In the US, many states have common-law-marriage. The rule is, "If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and looks like a duck, then it is a duck." Consider keeping your separate places, if you own them, for tax purposes, for inheritance purposes, etc., and spend time with each other, visiting, sleeping over, yet maintain separate residences, if keeping those greenbacks are so important. And, you know, a little bit of space now and then really does help a relationship.

Ah, our ridiculous pension system seen live and in person. Don't get me started on it! It's completely unfair that you would lose part of your cheque just because you're getting married. Anyway, I digress...

Getting married in another country "secretly" won't work. You need to have proper papers from our gov't in order to be allowed to get married somewhere else.

I don't believe that living together without being married is "living in sin" but why change your name to his? How does it make that any less living in sin? That doesn't make sense to me.

Why don't you have a commitment ceremony? Before gays were allowed to get married in Canada, this is what they had to do in order to "get married" but without the legal aspects. You can write vows, do a candle ceremony, even sign papers that you write up yourself. You can get any one of your friends or family members to perform the ceremony for you.

It won't be legal, but it will show your commitment to each other and to your friends/families. It will also allow you to keep your full pension cheque.

Actually, you're in luck that we have this new government - there is now pension sharing, so tax-wise, couples make out much better than they previously did.

About just shacking up, you're considered common law married after living together a year, so that point is moot.

Just get married, and enjoy one another!