Please save my marriage life...please I require ur genuine advice?

is he really ready to have a family? i think hes not yet.. he is still clinging to his parents.. i really think also that you leave separately from now on until he realizes that he needs you too..

Spending time together as a family is what you need to do. You need to arrange to go places, and if it's somewhere you can't take the baby then find someone to look after it for the day. It sounds like you're leading seperate lives and that's not healthy if you are married. I guess being an arranged marriage is not ideal as you did not become friends etc before you had to marry....maybe you've nothing in common.

He dint marry his lover bcoz his parents dint accept.... that shows u cannot possibly pull him out of his house to live separately! So, just abandon that idea.... for now atleast. I guess all u r looking for is your fair share of his time and attention. Ask him to take u out for dinner or someplace of ur choice once in a while, u cud feed ur baby and leave her/him with ur in-laws to take care of, say for abt 2 to 2 n a half hrs... of course it cud be much longer if u r not breast-feeding. Going out to shop for ur newborn cud be a great idea. Considering that he just seems to love everyone around him including u and ur baby... he must be a nice guy. He sounds like the kind of person who is not able to show his love to you the way u want it. Tell him what is lacking n make him understand in whatever way possible... Dont grumble and complain all the time to him abt his parents n his sister. that would only create more problem and distance. And i hope you dont think that he is having a happy life at your expense or anything of the sort and hence dont keep a long face throughout the day... It is normal to be stressed out while u've got a baby very recently... dont see it as a burden... Look at things in life with a smile on your face..

I know what u mean and i can totally understand your situation. The best thing to do would be to convince him that he has lived with his parents for a looooong time and now its time for you three to make your own little nest and start your independent life. in a house where you are both the man and lady of the house and you make all the decisions. but i know that most pakistani and indian men live with their parents forever and ever and ever and ever hehehehehe no offense but i just think its a very stupid cultural habit that gives rise to countless problems.

There are 2 things you can do in this situation, either convince your hubby gradually that you are suffering in that house and you want to live in a seperate house OR learn to live with this setup and take over the house by first befriending everyone and then take charge of the kitchen and then take charge of everything and become a part of the family. as for your hubby's smoking and drinking habits, i think he's retaliating coz he wanted to marry his galfriend. anyway just talk to him and try to start a loving relation with him. go out on dates, write him long love letters, take care of his every need. you have to develop a relation with him like in love marriages.

All I can say is, you have to talk to him about how you're feeling, you have to put your foot down and get him to compromise with you. Maybe even talk to his sister or mother and see if they could help you talk to him. Communication is the key to a good relationship, hun. If you can't talk to him, then I'm not sure the relationship could last long.

sadly we raise daughters on cinderella and raise boys to be selfish so women from all cultures are usually disappointed for these reasons after the reality of marriage sets in. that's not to say that you can't be happy, but you have to learn to be happy in yourself without resting your happiness on him or his approval/ love/ dedication to you.

make a good life for yourself in your child, education, career, hobbies as time permits. let him be the icing, not the cake.

good luck.

tell him to stop his bad habbits first because if he continues he will ruin his health. tell him that he needs to spend more time with you and the baby. ask him if he cares about you. if he does he will understand what you mean. so just tell him how you feel.

Be patient. Now that you have his child his attention will gradually shift from his family to you and your baby.

learn some good relationship skills!

i feel bad for u:(.. i really dont know what to tell u:(. talk to him