Soon to be ex-wife stole $3200 from joint checking account.?

Unfortunately i dont think theres much u can do.. u should of closed the account a year ago.. and the courts may look at it as a stupid mistake on your part.. because as long as it was a joint account with her name on it, she did have a right legally to do it.. although morally its wrong.. but whats the worse thing that can happen, the judge tells u tuff luck.. so seek it and maybe the judge will make her atleast pay half of it back..

Leaving anything JOINT in the aftermath of that mess is a HUMONGOUS mistake.

I think right now in this country and abroad, marriage & having children is a scary proposition whether you live together or not.

Today, the divorce rate is so high due to no-fault divorce. If you have kids, for women - that means they hold all the cards. A man today has to realize that, love and "the dream" aside, the risks to men/fathers far outweigh the rewards. Check the source - some great books and other resources on just this issue.

Family court is tilted heavily in favor of women/mothers. Moms have all the rights, get all the benefits, and dad is too often relegated to a visitor in his children's lives while being an ATM machine for mom. He can lose half (or more) of the cash, cars, house, investments, etc... and worse - the children.

Seriously, if I had known then what I know now about how the divorce machine sucks in fathers, grinds them up, and spits them out so unceremoniously, I would have never gotten married. I would have given up my dream of having a family.

With no-fault divorce (the biggest killer of marriage and families) you don't need an excuse anymore to get a divorce. You just don't have to feel like being married anymore - and with that reality comes the truth - a marriage is no longer a contract, so what's the point except to put yourself and your future at risk when someone "doesn't feel like it anymore?" With women (who have children) initiating almost 3/4 of divorces today (most men don't even see it coming), it's the smart man who chooses not to get married and certainly not have children... and that's a shame.

This affects men, women, and children alike. It affects everyone and people need to wake up to that reality. I know that there are lousy men and lousy fathers in this world - but make no mistake - the are plenty of lousy women and lousy mothers in this world and we should all be treated the same way (good or bad) and that simply isn't happening today.

Well, its not stealing if it was a joint account. Why would you not open a new after a year? Or sooner then a year?? A judge would look at that and tell you tough luck... sorry.

You can tell your lawyer what happened, but there isn't much they can do... All you can do is hope she becomes a decent human being.... Unless you have kids together, and you haven't been supporting them... Then I would say she is due that money...

I guess it all depends on the WHOLE story.

Not only contacting your lawyer was a good Idea yet you also need to contact the police and make a report that way you have the proof that it was her so there is no he said she said crap.

It is very easy to verify the fact that she was the one who withdrew the money out.

Yes even though it was joint you do need to prove that you have not been together for x amount of time and that it was indeed your check that was deposited therefore your money and not hers to take as she did.

Which put a strain on your financial state. you might be able to get more for compensation.

Good luck

Sure there is. "Legally" the account belonged to both of you, that's true. But when you present the evidence to the judge - that the two of you were separated and that you had set the precedent that the account was yours and she had not used in in the last 1-1/2 years, the judge can decide anything he wants to. Definitely don't let this go. Have your lawyer present it to the judge and you may be surprised. The law is not definite - there are loopholes everywhere and it ultimately just comes down to what the judge decides.

Tell me....if you had 'no contact" for a year...why do you still have a joint account with her?

You keep getting the short end of the stick because you ask for it. Use your head for a change and drop her from anything with both your names on it.

It definitely was a pretty crappy thing for her to do but her name was on the account, too. She just took it to be spiteful? Does she feel like you owe her money for some reason?

A judge may make her repay you if you can prove that she took it and wasn't entitled to it.

there is no way for you to get any money back it is a joint account and its your fault for not changing the account ps. next time you feel like giving away free money let me know in advance i could use some too........

U need to make a police report and then take her to small claims court w/proof u could possibly get ur money back by attaching her wages.

1. u should of took her name off the account

2. u should of changed all the codes

3. u should of opened an account in ur name only

because it is a joint account and she has acess ur up the creek. u could sue her for the money or leave it alone