If you happened to be on Myspace, and you saw?

Sure.

What kind of relationship does she have with her daughter and with the son-in-law? This may end up in a divorce should the husband find out. I think I would tell your friend but show her the Myspace. I say this so she believes it, she might think your mistaken and be upset with you. She is either going to be crushed at her daugher or very angry, she's going to need a friend to vent. Good Luck, maybe the daughter will call it off if she finds out that mom knows.

She (the daughter) is either a fool or she is using this medium to break the news .......... strange but thats folks.

It will not be long before SOMEBODY tells your friend - maybe it would be better coming from you.

Depends on what your friendship is like.

I would like you to tell me.

At least I would know that you were doing it out of love - and not out of some spiteful gossip mongering.

I really hope this is a hypothetical question or else there is going to be some very unhappy people around you pretty soon.

You will do what is right - you always do!

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Nope. If her daughter was dealing drugs or doing porn or planning a murder or abusing the children, my answer would be a definite yes. However, myspace and other social sites are also fantasy worlds. She might just be having a very inappropriate fantasy life on myspace.

Anyway, if you were able to get into her site, it's open for the world to see, and her husband probably already knows about it. I don't see the need to bring her parents into this until she or her husband decides it's time. We old folks have enough to worry about.

I would for sure show my best friend her daughters myspace and leave it at that. After all her daughter is making it public already. This way she could see for her self what is going on or at least what it appears to be going on. I know that I would want to know if my daughter was doing something like that. I would have a talk to my daughter about what she was doing and why. I would not be mad at my best friend for showing me what my daughter was doing. If she is cheating on her husband, then she deserves to loose him. She also should spent that extra time that she has "cheating", on her marriage IF she wants to be married, other wise get out of the marriage. But I would at least show my best friend her myspace so she would know.

if this was to happen then her profile must be set to open and that allows all and any to see it,if she did not want anybody to know then her profile would be set to private,therefor to see it must mean that she does not care either way so id certainly let her know that i had seen it and leave the decision up to her,sure does bring your values the front though,do you tell and risk a friendship or say nothing but let the daughter know you know,i think i would choose the former.

No, don't tell your friend what her daughter is doing. I don't think this is news that your friend would want to get from you or anyone else. Young people are really stupid about the messages they post on Myspace for the whole world to see. Keep quiet.

Ha! I would print it out and mail it to the daughters husband. Obviously if the info was that easy to access then she does not care about her marriage anymore.

Are you close enough to talk to the daughter? That's where I may start. If you were able to find that out wouldn't her mother be able to do the same?

I don't know that I would tell the best friend. I guess it would be dependant on how close you really are.With my friends, some I would be ok talking to them, others no.

Yeah, if she's blasting it on myspace why don't you just show your friend her daughters myspace and let her read it herself.

How do you know that she doesn't know already. There are times when our children do unspeakable things. You pray everyday you don't have to explain it to anyone.