Sticky Situation?

You can make an announcement at dinner as to how much you appreciate the beautiful wedding that your parents gave you. (it's usually the bride's parents that host the wedding anyway) Then you could thank your fiances parents for giving you this wonderful man in your life and that's why you are here today...something like that

Then both sets of parents would be recognized genuinely

I was in the same situation. My fiance's mom was not hurt in the least. She is very understanding and was happy for her son and myself. If you don't feel comfortable saying Thank You to your parents infront of everybody, on your wedding day or when you get back from your honeymoon take them to dinner and give them a gift with a nice personal note.

Traditionally,. the bride's parent host the wedding, so it wouldn't be awkward to thank them for their contribution.

One question though? At the rehearsal dinner, are his parents paying?

If they are paying for the RD, then you should honor them as well.

If not, well, it's understandable because they already done it once before, but I woudl tahank them for their support, love etc.

One thing, do give both sets of parents an appreciatiion present. It could be something small, a personal memento perhaps.

Good luck

A nice thing to do if you want to do a public acknowledgement is too thank both sets of parents for being warm, supportive, loving, etc- no mention of money. Then, you and your husband can give a heartfelt card to your parents after the wedding, expressing your appreciation for the financial support. This way no one gets their feelings hurt and your parents still get the extra special attention.

I think your gesture is an amazing one. and you are right not to want to make the soon to be in laws uncomfy. I would say at the rehersal dinner the bride and groom usually give gifts to the part members give a simple gift to all or both sets of parents, and then slip in a note with your parents gift that says how greatful you are to them because they helped make your wedding dreams come true. that way to acknowledge them but it is done privately and with the up most respect for all parties involved.

I understand what you are saying but I think this may be one of those situations if you want to recognize your parents for this you should do so. I think your parents deserve that for what they are doing for you.

You can also include your soon to be in laws in a speech recognizing them for who they are and just for them. Being warm, loving, accepting, ect...Your fiances parents may not have contributed financially but I am sure there are a number of things that they have done to contribute to yours and your fiances life together so far. :)

Maybe make 2 toasts. One to your parents thanking them for their generous contribution to your special day and Another one to your future in-laws thanking them for their support and let them know how happy you are to be part of thier family. That way nobody is left out.

thanking your parents in no way demeans or disrespects the inlaws.