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So . . . anyone find this wrong?

Well. I'm 18 and I just graduated and all. I started dating my girlfriend during my senior year, when she was a freshman. I was 17 and she was 15. I'm now 18.

Many people comment on how young she is, and how they think it's not such a great idea. But, is 18 and 15 really that big of an age difference? Or do you think they are saying it merely because I'm 18 and that technically classifies me as an adult (my guess)?

Also, does anyone think that 15 (or 18) is too young to "fall in love?" I don't believe it is. I'm sure I'm in love with her . . . as she believes she is with me. 8 months is surely enough time to fall in love with someone, right?

And sorry, but I also have another question. =)

Her parents won't allow me to date her. Not because of my age . . . her mom refuses to allow her to date me because I'm an atheist. Does anyone think that's wrong? (Yes, 8 months and it's still a secret. Her mother is clueless, I kno

Update:

And yes, I would never pressure her into doing anything "sexual." Besides, she seems way more physical than I am anyway. If there was ever any pressuring, I'm sure she'd be the one doing it. ;)

And to that one guy, an atheist is someone who doesn't believe in God. Or any gods.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    your 18 go and see other people and see the world. i urge you to take a break and find your self before you get stuck in a relationship where you get her pregnant and she has to drop out of high school and you have to quit college (if you are going) to support your new family and in a few years you will not want this for your self and you will wish you took that kids advice on yahoo but it will be the right decision trust me please! because it is the same thing to happened to my sister and it kills me inside to see what she is going through!

  • 1 decade ago

    When I was 14, I dated an 18 year old, another freshman senior relationship. We were both teased badly. I think it is the fact that the two people are at very different places in their lives and people don't believe they can make it work. However, I was seeing a 17-turned 18 year old (in collage) at the age of 15, and less people cared (my sophomore year). I guess it all depends.

    Yeah, the atheist thing, thats religious intolerance, so obviously thats wrong.

    Use your age to your advantage, be mature and figure out ways to get her mother to see you're not the devils child. If she finds out your secretly seeing her daughter, you will be in much more trouble than battling over religious differences.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    This is the exact same situation as one of my good friends. The EXACT. except the Athesit part. Her moms just a prick. No its not wrong its only 3 years and people only say it is because 18 is considered an adult. you can fall in love at any age, if its real true love, youll know. 8 months is big im sure she feels the same if its gone on this long. most parents dont approve anyways so dont let that get in the way, but then again dont go off doing something that can hurt her or ruin someones life...your older and have to understand her age, limits, and what shell be comfortable with

    *im 15 and ive gone out with an 18 year old

    no regrets.

  • Rosa
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    From a legal stand point it is illegal have sex with her if she is 15 - 17 and your an adult (legally) Her mom does still have the right to try to control her friends. It's a mom thing. I don't think it's fair but no one said life was going to be fair. I would be careful and do not have sex with her. There are a ton of young men on their states child predator lists on the Internet because they had sex with a minor and they where 18 years old. You can look it up in any state. Check it out yourself. Look under sex offenders in you state. If you really love her then just take your time and be very careful. Love isn't all about having sex. I know you didn't say anything about it but I'm sure her mom is thinking all sorts of things like that.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    ok about the age diffrence i have the same situation with this guy hes 18 too. i think of it this way: as long as you love her dont worry about other people. I think its ok since you guys did meet before you were even 18. as long as you guys have meaningful conversation i dont think anythings wrong.

    ok about the 8 months been enough time...i dont agree i dated a guy for 9 months thinking i loved him blah blah blah until i met this amazing guy (18 year old) so dont assume you love her 100 percent fully because you might disapoint yourself like how i disapointed myself.

    i think it's wrong that she cant talk to her mom. her mom should understand that its better to let her daughter do something in front of her than behind her back. i don't think the atheist thing should matter it's not like you will marry at 18 right?

    btw don't risk having sex with her because if you get caught you problably will go to jail considering her parents arent very fond of you

    good luck

    ps:the reason why the problably have a problem with the atheist thing can also be that they believe you dont have any morals and stuff since you dont believe in god so they think you will encourage pre marital sex and that can get her pregnant so if shes pregnant she wont be able to have that white "christian" wedding they always dreamed of.

    answer plz

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ahgpw...

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Your age difference makes it illegal. Since she may be sexually pressuring you soon, this can be a really big problem. When you add the sneaking around behind her mom's back, you are really pushing it (her mom will be the one to turn you in to the cops).

    The going rate in the USA is 10 years for a minor giving a bf oral sex. Sad but true. Time to back off and wait for her to turn 18. In the meantime, get started on a good career.

  • 1 decade ago

    well all i have to say is that 15 is really young and the things your able to do she isn't so you guys are goin to be in 2 diff parts of life she will never catch up to you in age when your 21 she will be 18 and you will experiencing things that she isn't she cant relate and things she say or do may seem a little childish to you just my opinion 9 times out of ten when you think your in love your not and you only realize it after its all said and done your young trust me you haven't found in love yet you guys are still finding your place in this world finding what makes you tick

    as far as religious beliefs im a Christian woman and i think that ppl always try to be holier than god and its not god like to judge and be hateful because of some ones beliefs just remember ppl will always be scared of whats different

  • 1 decade ago

    alright. well i am actually kind of going through this too.. not myself but my sister and her boyfriend. they have been dating for two years now. and my sister is a senior in high school and he is now a sophomore in college. they believe that they are in love, as well as i do. i dont think that this age is too young to fall in love. if you really do feel a connection with each other, and its a big enough feeling that you think it could be love.. then great=). yeah my sisters boyfriend is actually an atheist as well.. but my parents do not really care as much as your girlfriends parents do. so thats is a really tough question for me to answer. if you do believe that you love her, keep going on with the relationship. because love is never wrong.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you've found love in life this early you're quite lucky but there is definently no problem with your age difference. My own mother and father were 54 and 42 last time I checked. And it is wrong that her mother won't let her see you as well. If you ever truely want to resolve that problem though you'll either have to sit down with your girlfriend's mom and either explain your views or straight up lie and tell her you've become christain.

  • 1 decade ago

    Two years isn't really a big gap. I'm seventeen and I think it's okay to date a guy who is nineteen.

    When it comes to falling in love, age isn't a factor. You just know when you are.

    And about being an atheist, maybe that's why her parents doesn't like you that much. Perhaps, they are very religious?

  • 1 decade ago

    WTF, omg, you sound almost completely the same as me.

    Except I'm still 17 but just graduated. My "ex" was 15.

    We broke up about a month ago. Her parents didnt like me as well, exactly because I was an Atheist.

    I don't think your too young to fall in love, because I sure did with her, but it was a little annoying at times because she seemed a little immature at times, with the whole "I love you thing." I dont know about your girl.

    btw, Our relationship went on for about 6 months.

    About her parents not allowing you to date is extremely mean. To discriminate someone for their religious beliefs in that way isn't right. I would sit down with her parents and try to explain your reasoning, it worked with me. I went to church with them once to see their point of view, and I was free to explain mine.

    I hope I helped!

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