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Is it alright if your significant other tells another he/she is attractive?
Some say it's disrespectful, some say it's harmless. How do you feel about it?
Great answers everybody. She could say "Hey handsome" to a guy or he could say "You're a pretty lady" without it being a big deal. Just as long as they aren't flirting (or more).
Thanks for your honesty justwanttoknow. A lot of people feel that way. I won't pretend that it wouldn't sting a little to hear a guy I'm seeing say that to another woman. But if it's really just a compliment, and he's open about it, should it really bother me? Being quiet may not be good either because it encourages sneakiness. And as long as he isn't going beyond the compliment, or if I say "Hey cutie" to a guy I'm not going to go beyond that. And my guy probably won't like it either but he should trust me and know I'm not doing anything wrong. Hmmm, maybe then it shouldn't be said by either of us. But we are still thinking it. This is interesting. I guess that's why good communication is crucial in a relationship.
7 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It totally depends on how its said and not what is said. People can say things matter-of-factly and others can flirt - the distinction is obvious.
Plus if you do not want to offend your significant other - you can use more neutral words to express yourself... surely thats all the compliment is - an expression of your opinion...
Just be respectful of each other's feelings. At the end of the day you know how you gf/ bf will take it and react - so what you say/ do should be said accordingly...
- Robert PLv 51 decade ago
Of course it is. It is no different than telling somwone else they are tall. We all, married or not, find other people attractive so why not say so? To pretend otherwise would be deceit. Naturally I am not talking about coming on to them but just stating they are attrctive is no insult to a current relationship.
- SybilLv 61 decade ago
I think it's cool to compliment people if you think they are attractive no matter what the sex. "you look nice tonight" or "you have pretty eyes" or "I like the way you had your nails done", might be just what that person needed at that time. It surely will boost their mood if nothing else. I see nothing wrong with it at all.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
My boyfriend makes jokes to me about which girls are hot, and which girls are NOT all the time... it's funny to me, and I like seeing what he likes in girls, so I can always cater my own look to his tastes in clothes and what not.
If he's telling someone they are attractive to their face, it's kind of putting the vibe out like.. "hey i think you're hot, and want to F**K you" I wouldn't really be feeling that too much.
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- spam_free_he_heLv 71 decade ago
Depends.............
Let's say your significant other is a girl, if she tells another guy he's attractive, that's OK
If she also says that because he's attractive, she wants sex from him..........that's a problem.
I don't think it's a problem saying or thinking someone else is attractive, it's how you behave towards that person, (and the person your dating).
Luck
- MikeLv 61 decade ago
Nothing wrong with it and my wife has no problem hearing me say it to another person.
- justwanttoknowLv 41 decade ago
I think that it is disrespect especially if done in front of you.....I think once you start dating someone you should keep all your opinion on who is cute to yourself or tell your partner.....do not tell them
