Would you like to be our neighbor?

Yes Poppy - I have one to the west of me (I think) right now! I live in a nice gated community designed for seniors! How this idiot ever got in here I do not know. He is about 45 and a real mean person. We are not allowed to have fences in here - and I constantly have to ask him NOT to cut my grass on the west side of my house. He does it anyway and cuts it so short that when we are without rain for a while, it turns brown and it is difficult to get it back to where it should be. I have asked my "yard man" to chat with him (I am a widow), but all to no avail. So the last time I asked him (nicely) he called the police!!!!!!!!! When the police arrived, I spoke with them, and they told me that they had had multiple complaints about him in this neighborhood and that for my own safety I should stay out of his way. Well about a month ago the police came again - but they went to his house and arrested him. I do not know why - nor do I care! He's gone (at least for now) and I am happy about that! I have always maintained that strong fences make for good neighbors. CJ

I do have one neighbor that I have a problem with, but not the same kind that you are talking about. This guy I was my neighbor when we were growing. We both moved away from home and now we are both back home now so to speak. He lives in his own house and me in mine. There are just a few feet between his house and mine. He has put up a privacy fence in the last year to separate our yards. He is always wanting to help out here with my parents and I. Now here is where the problem comes in at. If I ask him for help, he wants a favor from me in return! I always tell him no and that I am not interested. We try hard to find someone that will help us but once in a blue moon we do have to call on him. I try to avoid him every chance that I get. If it weren't for his potty mind, everything would be great.

I lived in the country more than the city. I like the country better. I never thought I'd say that, since growing up in a city. When my present husband and I moved to a larger city I was apprehensive. I knew there would be more crime, and also having to start over meeting people, but I was willing to give it a try. We made the mistake of befriending a neighbor who ended up telling lies to his next door neighbor and she read us the riot act saying she was told that we said her back yard was an eyesore. It was a total lie. Her yard is full of flowers, trees, pines, and I thought it was really pretty. The troublemaker neighbor was trying to stir up trouble. He later admitted he lied and said he doesn't know why he told her that. That was it for me. I washed my hands of both. She speaks, and I speak, but that is it. I'm not giving any neighbors the chance to twist what I say. Our next door neighbor on meeting her first time told us that she has the dirt on all the neighbors. I politely excused myself and haven't talked to her since. Sorry this is so long. JB

When I lived in the city I had a crazy neighbor too. He scrached the paint on our car 3 times, threw. stones at our dog that was in our fenced yard. After 8 years we sold out and moved to the country.

I live in country also I never want to go back to apt living or neighbors it was awful especially when you got kids there is some kinda fighting going on Ill stay in the country with neighbors a mile away.

I've never had a neighbor like that. At most, a few were pretty annoying, but I just tried being nice to them. If they didn't welcome being treated nicely, I just acted like they were invisible, and they seemed to be content to reciprocate. Usually, either they or I moved soon enough. After we bought a house, we were fortunate to get excellent neighbors immediately adjacent to us, and the few jerks that exist live farther out in the neighborhood and are a nuisance to everyone, so we don't take it personally. Over the years, they've become pretty much "invisible" to us as well, so things have worked out in the long run.

Living around someone that seems to be angry at everyone around them, can cause a lot of tension.

It's hard to explain it to your children too. They wonder why.

Long ago I made up my mind, that if I wanted someone to like me, by golly I was going to do every thing I could, to win them over. That has been the most rewarding thing I have ever done.

Some people are so lonely & sour on life that they do things to drive others away. I kill em with kindness & we are both rewarded.

Country living is great. I started out in life there. Enjoy the clean air.

I would like to be your neighbor..I also live in Central Calif.like Me-She, but so far have not had the drug dealing and making neighbors she had.

Our neighbor hood looks out for each other, yesterday my husband did a minor chore for a neighbor across the street, that is 10 years older than us..today our Vietnam next door neighbors brought us some warm egg rolls..We had them for lunch. We live in a great neighborhood.

As a city dweller I can sympathize with you. I live next door to a drug dealer. It has been like a nightmare living next door to these people who have 5 pit bulls that are poorly taken care of, and watching the drug deals go on. Fortunately the rest of my neighbors are very nice considerate people.. One bad person in a neighborhood can make it bad for alot of people.

Well sure i would love to be your neighbour! You seem like you have a very friendly and outgoing family. I had neighbours like that once( and still do..) they aren't the nicest neighbour I have ever had, but at times they can be very rude and mean. I can't even let a little rubber ball roll on to their lawn without them yell they heads off! So i usally go into the backyard too and hope that I don't accidentally throw it over the fence. My family has also planned to move into to the country several times, but we are just waiting till you find the perfect house with the right neighbours!