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44-year old calls too much?

About 2 and a half weeks ago, I went out and got very, very drunk. While I was in this state, I gave my phone number to a 44-year-old lady (I'm 25) because when you're drunk, it just seems like the thing to do. She's a lesbian, I'm not. I'm in a very conservative town, and I know I'm one of few people who don't judge her for this, but I'm not the kind of person who needs a best friend around all the time. I prefer to be alone a lot.

Well, she calls every day now and always wants to hang out, etc. I dont' think we have much in common, and also the age difference is a little inappropriate to be drinking buddies. I haven't answered my phone for 2 weeks, but she's still calling and leaving messages.

Should I continue to ignore the calls forever? I'm wondering why she's not getting the hint. I have to admit that if this was an old guy calling, I would be seriously creeped out.

What do you think?

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  • Marina
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Ignore the calls forever. If you answer even once, she knows that persistent calling will succeed. If you can block her from calling, do it. Being a lesbian doesn't exclude her from the creepy and clingy category. You need to stay far, far away from her. And try not to do dumb things even when intoxicated, as there is a price to pay.

  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like the poor girl is awfully needy. She must be lonely. Why don't you call and simply say that you are not able go out with her anytime soon, but ask if she has an email address? This way you can keep in touch but only answer her when you have time and it's convenient for you. Also you don't get tied up. I do as much communication as possible with friends and family by email. I'm a rare breed I guess, because I hate the phone!

    Source(s): PS You should not have to give a reason. Just keep it simple. If she asks why then she is the one being rude, not you. At that point I would just get honest and say you are busy with other things and don't have much in common with her.
  • 1 decade ago

    I'm trying to figure out why you gave your number to a 44 year old lesbian in a bar?

    Giving out your number in a bar is a pretty definite sign that your "interested".

    By giving her your number, you opened the door for the relationship to take the next step. She probably thinks your just being coy but want her, too. Next time don't respond to the pass.

  • rapose
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    nicely, of course there is a few thing incorrect with him. i'm a 40 two 365 days previous guy, and whilst i'm useful i could discover you sexually appealing, i would not discover you appealing in any incorrect way-- we are only in very diverse ranges in our lives. As an 18 365 days previous, you nonetheless have dissimilar transforming into and changing to do. That makes me think of there is a few thing incorrect with him. besides, be company in turning him down and telling him you at the instant are not involved. do no longer enable him think of he has a raffle. If he would not enable up, tell him you will report a police checklist. If that would not at the instant supply up him, bypass to the police.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Obviously ignoring the calls haven't stopped them in the last 2 weeks, she's not getting your message. Need to get real with her and let her know you don't want to hang out - be kind but firm.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would be creeped out no matter what, she is lonely.

    tell her you dont do phones only interent communications, like myspace and then get rid of her via that way, tell her you cant get on the interent with your phone constantly ringing, see?

    then send a myspace link to her and let her go from there, from that spam here emails. she will find someone on myspace like herself very quickly, I bet!

  • 1 decade ago

    I think the reason shes still calling is because you haven't told her not to, when she calls again pick up the phone and say exactly what your saying in your question very simple cut and dry

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    restrict her calls, and tell her you arent intrested

  • 1 decade ago

    you should just tell her your not interested

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