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Has the "fire" gone out of your marriage after a few years?

I hear many people say that the "in love" feelings and sexual desire fizzle out in a few years, as a matter of course. I'm married almost 25 years and I haven't found that to be the case, and I was wondering what the norm is.

do people expect to not feel "in love" and feel lusty for one another after a few years?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Your lucky me and my wife our like strangers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My man is my best friend

    We keep the laughter going.. we share love & life

    Sex is better now than ever

    Give your sex life a makeover..learn to be creative

    Look Good Ladies 24/7

    You can dress up sweat pants,,put on a tee shirt that shows your twins (breasts)

    Ladies, Maintain your beauty..loose that weight..stop walking around with that scarf on your head

    A little makeup & perfume will entice anyone

    Buy new underwear (sexy)

    Listen, those Hanes bikini briefs are better than those 'granny draws"

    Victoria secret is a good buy if you can afford it

    You don't have to wear a thong..just get sexy

    Watch those MTV & BET videos.. (learn a few dance moves) Shake your *** sometimes

    Like regina Belle's song "Make it like it was"

    know what's up (don' be a square)

    Don't be so damn boring

    sing around the house those old love songs from yesterday

    slap him on his *** when he passes by & say OOh baby

    I am married over 25 and it's FRESH

    There are great expectations in the longevity of marriage

  • 1 decade ago

    Congratulations - I envy you and your spouse. 25 years!!!

    After several years in a relationship I'm lucky if I have a pilot light let alone a "fire."

    I tend to tire of men (and they probably feel the same way about me) I like the excitement of something new every few years. If I ever do find someone that can keep me happy both physically and mentally I might just hang in there.

    Sounds shallow I know but hey that's where I'm at right now.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes if they're not in love! So many couples don't even know what love is. They think they're in love, then they get married and the truth comes out. That's when the "fire" is gone.

    I have been married for 10 years and I feel like we met yesterday. Nothing is better than a man and a woman in love and nothing could put out that fire! That's TRUE LOVE!

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  • 1 decade ago

    I've been married for just one year and I'm staring to feel the fizzle of sexual desire, but not of love.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes did in mine. I don't want to blame the kids but the extra time for them they do need. I seem to got lost along with the time I should have spent on her. More my fault was working up to 11 hours a day and working Saturdays. Yes my feelings turned more to resentment then love. 15 years down the drain

  • 1 decade ago

    I congratulate you for doing something right in your marriage. Here most people hope to tolerate each other for 25 years and you're going strong. Consider writing a book to be handed out to engaged couples.

    Way to go!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think if you were really honest you wouldn't make such a statement. Can you honestly say after 25 years its like you first met? I appreciate that you are still together but to say its just as good as it was I find that hard to believe.

    Source(s): Life
  • 1 decade ago

    I think what happens is we get so caught up in the "responsibilities of life" that we forget what we enjoyed so much about each other. The kids in themselves because you have to be so pure around them makes you feel like you can't be that way w/your spouse at least in my experience. I'm too used to being "proper" for my kids. UGH!

  • 1 decade ago

    Nope

  • 1 decade ago

    some people just get into doing the same things everyday. so they get board. also people just fall out of love with someone too.

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