I only want one child, is this selfish?

I know how you feel. I probably won't have any more children, and sometimes I feel like I am depriving my son (22months) of having siblings, or being an uncle someday. But, my husband I can't really afford another child and we are happy as a threesome. I'm almost 34 and my husband is 40 and the one baby wears us out! Maybe if we were still in out 20s we'd have more energy! Also, we feel like we can do more for one child than we could multiple children, money-wise.

I don't think you are selfish. Like you said, she has an older brother already. Families come in all shapes and sizes. But, I know how you feel, I get that a lot too.

No, I don't think you're selfish. You have very fair reasons to want just the one child. You know more than anyone else what you can handle and what you think is good for you and your daughter. There are no rules that say parents must have more than one child. Perhaps your friends / family who are giving you a hard time about it are just hoping to see you with another kid. To help keep the heat off of you, I would just tell them it's possible you might have another kid when the time is right (even though you know better), this will let them know there is a possibility and hopefully they will stop treating you like you are being selfish.

No, you are not selfish. But let me tell you this. Before I met my husband, I didn't want anymore kids. I had a son in high school and was happy that he was older and I could start enjoying the life I missed out on because I had him so young and was a single mother.

Since meeting my husband.. 3 more kids, including twins!! LOL

My older son is almost 21 now. And my husband and I have a 5yr old and 16month old twins.

It isn't selfish. Having children is a personal choice. I had only one child for 14 years. I just recently had another a month ago. I never thought I would have another child. I said for years I am not having anymore. But anyway you don't owe anybody a explanation for having one kid.

I don't think its wrong. I just think that how some people go about taking care of it is wrong. Get an iud and us protection too. Use everything in your power to not GET pregnant. I can't stand people who use abortion as bc or at all for that matter. but anyways its not wrong to only want one. I only want two or three tops. (husband just wants a boy and a dog lol) Just make sure you take precautions. And if you are over the age of twenty five then maybe if your positive about this go get your tubes tied. Good Luck hun and i hope you find a safe non-abortion way. :)

It isn't selfish at all. Some people choose not to have ANY children because they wouldn't be able to care for them properly, they want to live a child-free lifestyle, they fell the population is high enough as it is...it is actually selfless if you think about it that way.

that IS NOT selfish! how is that selfish at all? just because you have the ability to have more children DOES NOT mean you have to! that was rude of them to say that! i want only one child as well...kids can be hard to handle. also the sibling squabbles, and the rivalry, and all kinds of stuff. and you are a single mother. its hard enough raising kids, but as a single mother? thats hard. just ignore that person's rude comment!

that's a silly logic in my view, besides the undeniable fact that that's a loose worldwide so which you're welcome have faith it in case you pick. in case you do, i assume this suggests you is basically no longer procreating, this is likewise basically superb with me. The planet is overpopulated already, quite with damaging people. If all people stopped procreating it may be the tip of the human species, which i'm useful you recognize. i ask your self this is actual greater merciless, to beget a life that would or could no longer become a somewhat chuffed one or to disclaim any danger of changing into human and understanding what happiness is? between the failings in antinatalism is that it denies we are able to transcending suffering. What of the proclivity of people to overcome adversity? there is super exhilaration and delight in that, and devoid of it we does no longer have survived this long as a species. it is conceivable to circulate beyond suffering. besides that, devoid of suffering, how would desire to a minimum of one somewhat rejoice with wellbeing, happiness and exhilaration? i won't be in a position of declare why we are here in this universe, however the actuality we are here exhibits that human life basically could be an inevitable effect of the evolution of the universe. i do no longer think of mankind had a decision in that rely. If certainly life grew to become into inevitable and that for the period of a few unique way the universe is "basically top" for human life and created us, then interfering with the organic evolution of the universe via denying our procreative skill seems an smug perversion of huge magnitude. Why could we've interest and mind and emotion and the skill to reproduce if we weren't meant to apply them? What of your own life? Do you get no happiness out of it? in case you're unhappy along with your life and the actuality which you weren't asked in case you're able to pick to be here, TFB. this is life. "in case you do no longer like it, leave", because of the fact the asserting is going. interior the recommend time, make the appropriate of it. in case you pick to detect happiness, attempt training compassion. whilst is the final time you actual tried assuaging the suffering of yet another? which would be a competent initiate. (p.s. if exhilaration is irrelevant, so is suffering. Case disregarded. )

No, I don't think it's selfish at all. Everyone has their perferences. You shouldn't question your decision if that is what you want to do. Think about yourself and not what other people think.

i dont think u r selfish