Why do some adoptees have difficulty accepting life circumstances. ?

Because some people have difficulty accepting life's circumstances and some people are adopted. If you cross refrence the two there is bond to be a few people who fall in both categories.

Where do any adoptees say that their struggles are insurmountable? Why do you assume that because someone doesnt like adoption, oh, it must mean they can't function in their lives at all. Crap happens. And I deal. Its been that way for a very long time. No different than anyone else thankyouverymuch.

Every adoptee has a different story to tell. My story (and obviously yours) had a happy ending, not everyone is this lucky.

People have every right to question their situation, no matter what it may be. Thank the lord that you had a good situation, but a lot of adoptees go through hell.

I thought you were an adoptee? ....no?

Considering this is the adoption section, I think it's the most likely place to find strong opinions regarding adoption. If someone is just A OK with their adoption and never think about it, they are less likely to search for online support, but if they are truly hurt by adoption, they are more likely to represent their position.

Do I think "adoptees think their struggles are insurmountable"? Not really, I think that for many here, being adopted (actually separated from their first family) has been an insurmountable event the THEIR lives.

As i've said repeatdly, not all adoptees feel the same way as others. Some are happy, some are not, some are in between. Some wish to search, others don't.

Everyone finds life difficult at some point.

I don't even know how to answer these questions anymore. You act like we are a breed of dog and should all behave in the same way somehow.

Adoption is the loss of one's original parents. Much as you try, you can't ignore that fact. Sorry. It is an indisputable loss. Every person responds differently to loss. You may not understand another person's response but it isn't yours to understand. Let it go, and go focus on your own.

Not really your concern is it

Don't you expend alot of energy worrying about how other people think of feel. You must be so exhausted from angrily protesting how happy you are lol

You need to grow a heart

Because some of us - such as myself - find it incredulous that "God" or "Fate" planned for something horrible to happen JUST so we would end up in our adoptive families.

Then comes the response: "But WE APs didn't cause the horrible circumstance! When we say it was God's plan, we just mean it was a blessing that our child became a part of our family."

They're right - they did NOT cause those circumstances. Nor have I ever implied that they did. :)

BUT without those horrible circumstances, these children would not have ended up in an orphanage and BEEN adopted. You do not have one without the other. They are interlinked.

it sounds like you have trouble accepting that some peeps dont like adoption. chill...

I assume you're referring to adoptees who refuse to recognize they are adopted and pretend as if they really were born to their adoptive parents. I don't know. Their compulsion to hide from their own past is a mystery to me.