How do I involve everyone in my wedding!?

my soon to be MIL tried pulling this trick on me how since i don't have any family that are girls that i should have his family (meaning his cousins) as bridesmaids she said to keep it in the family. well at first i was like whatever i'll please her to get on her good side. well since i have cussed out one of his cousin's and she isn't invited to the wedding. the other one is a dumb a** who couldn't even go looking for dresses. i dropped them both. his mom is so not happy about it and she is trying to reck it! she is telling my fiance things like you all shouldn't get married. that i'm to immature(because i refuse to invite his cousin, but would you invite her if she said she was gonna make your day a living hell?) yeah so we are doing what we want and that's all that matters. so my advise to you STICK WITH WHO YOU HAVE AND DON'T LET ANYONE CHANGE IT BECAUSE IT COULD TURN INTO THE WORSE CASE SCENARIO! its YOUR day and you should have who YOU want in YOUR wedding! i wish you luck!!

my fiance and i both have fairly large families and we had the same issues trying to figure out how to get everyone involved and happy. you can have the boys be ushers or walk the parents/grandparents down the isle. you can have any of the girls be attendants that either take care of the guest book or pass out the order of ceremony cards. this would give them each an important job to do. also, you can have them read a piece or scripture or poetry that has meaning to you and your fiance. this would allow them to be apart of the ceremony without having to be the people standing by your side if you aren't close enough of comfortable with it.

How about making your sisters your personal attendants?

I don't have a close relationship with my sister either, unfortunately. My husband's sisters stood on my side and my brother was one of his groomsmen. My sister came to the wedding with no hard feelings. I hadn't seen her in 8 years!

My birth father was not invited, and many of my family members were mad about this at first. In the end, they saw my point after I explained it to them and they got over it.

Listen to your heart and follow it. Take in the considerations of others, but ultimately, it is your choice.

Best of luck and congrats.

i paid for my own wedding... and i made it to be like that so no one will tell me what to do with my money. imagine your wedding's done, would you mind if your sisters are not part of the entourage... despite all the pressure? if not, then just stand your ground. say no, and let them know that you wish they would respect your decision.