If you had an unintentional pregnancy, would open records make you choose abortion rather than adoption?

Dear Romany,

I ONLY agreed to adoption because I was told that my children would NOT suffer not knowing who I am. I was promised that "open" adoption would PREVENT the issues the closed records cause because we would always have contact. I was unaware that the APs could close the adoption after finalization.

I would have parented otherwise.

For me, closed records are a reason NOT to place a child for adoption and I would have made very different decisions had I known that "open" adoption are unenforceable soley BECAUSE of closed records - even without knowing what I know now about the effects of adoption on adoptees and first parents. I would NEVER wish to hide or be unknown to my offspring. I don't purposely cause pain for people I love...

ETA: Only one of my 4 pregnancies was "unintentional".

In a hypothetical situation that I was pregnant and for some reason the decision came down to abortion or adoption, open records would not factor into it at all. It would not make me more likely to choose abortion.

We all know that there are three possible choices with any pregnancy: abortion, parenting or adoption. I can't think of any situation that would make me rule out parenting, but this is a hypothetical situation so I'm just going along with it.

Personally, the only way I would ever have an abortion is if my life were in danger. Even then, I would get a second opinion (or 3rd, 4th...) But aside from that, I would never have an abortion. Never. I believe that life is precious and that a chance at life is always better than no chance.

I don't think that legally enforcing open records will cause a sudden jump in the abortion rates.

Well if i were to base my answer off of the statistics in Oregon, after the records opened there in 98, abortions continued to decline and adoptions actually increased.

Right to life can suck on that for a bit.

If i were to have an unexpected pregnancy, i'd raise my child. :) I don't think that "open records" in adoption influences many decisions because as I have found, most people don't even know that sealed records exists. lmfao. People either abort, choose adoption as a quick escape, or parent. I did have an unexpected pregnancy and the dr. never said to me "don't worry gershom, records are sealed in this state, if you surrender she'll never find you." hehehe I can't possibly imagine never wanting my flesh and blood to find me either. Nevertheless she's sleeping in the next room as I type and I chose parenting, but still. Why would I want to hide from her? I'm her mother.

No, the connection between abortion and open records makes no sense. If I were to choose to have an abortion I wouldn't even be thinking of paperwork/records/adoption. I would only be thinking about my reasons for being unable to continue with the pregnancy. I can't even begin to imagine why abortion would have anything to do with adoption paperwork.

I would not have an abortion (I would have used multiple birth control methods if I didn't want a child - but that is not what you asked)

In my case, I would ask one of my sister's to adopt the child if there were absolutely no way I could raise it so open records would not factor into the decision.

If that were not possible, I still think I would want the child to be able to find me 18 years later. The child would have questions and emotions that would need to be dealt with. I would feel it was my duty to do the best I could for the child even if I was unable to raise him/her.

No, I would have an abortion, but NOT because of open records. I just will never choose adoption, open or closed.

However, to answer your question, I would WANT my child to find me. Closed records just seal the deal on abortion for me.

In states who have recently opened their adoptions records, the abortion rates have DECREASED, much to the dismay of the Anti-Choice lobbyists. They have long fought open adoptions AND access to OBC's, as they have said women would abort, rather than be found by their basturd child years on down the line. Anti-choice people just want more babies for the infertile- they could care less about the first mothers. Their flawed logic has backfired on them.

BTW- I did have an abortion, but for the OPPOSITE reason. Because of closed records.

""Extra points for those who have actually MADE the decision.""

Which 'decision' would that be....for abortion or adoption? Open records only exists lawfully in 6 or 7 states. What if a surrendering mother surrenders in a state where Open Records is still not allowed? Then what? What if the adoptive parent never tells the adopted child, that he/she was adopted, then what? In that case wouldn't matter if there was Open Records, since the adopted child may never even know they were adopted. Are you speaking more to Open Adoption then Open Records?

whether no physique else is accustomed to relating to the abortion... they are going to... for the remainder of their lives. on condition that the Catholic Church effectively teaches that abortion is homicide, in the event that they're in any respect worried approximately their faith, even basically a tiny bit... or whether they don't look to be now yet are extra in all hazard to as they grow previous, then abortion might desire to be out of the question. The "suitable" ingredient to do is unquestionably get married and take accountability for the youngster if this is amazingly conceivable. yet at this factor, the "sin" of premarital intercourse has already occured. So the Church would not instruct that putting a baby up for adoption is in any way shape or form a "sin". in actuality, given the form of infertile couples are accessible that could prefer to undertake a baby, the main loving and honorable ingredient she might desire to do at this factor may well be to place the toddler up for adoption if commencing a relatives might extra in all hazard furnish a adverse environment for the toddler.

I wouldn't choose either I would choose to parent but if I was forced to choose abortion or adoption I would choose abortion but it has absolutely nothing to do with open or closed records. I live in the UK where records are open and I was coerced into surrendering my son - I wanted to raise him even if it had been difficult. We have been in reunion since 2004 and I have always loved him but nothing can replace the lost years which is a pain I have to live with.