Parent's.. have you ever thought that no one listened?

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what you do for your children that you are the fault of all their problems? I mean my son has alot of mental health issues that still are trying to be all figured out, but he had these problems from being a infant(some ) he was very different. He didn't like to be cuddled, he would scream, he didn't like to sleep, and as he got older he became just worse and he had bad behavior that wasn't easly corrected, but I kept trying, but his problems just kept getting worse. He was in counsling and so forth. But because my ex husband (and his mother) made case after case on me  with cps, even though I won all the cases they are trying to say my sons problems are somehow my fault.
I didn't hurt my child, I didn't let anything happen to my child. What can I do? I don't care what they think about me because I know but they keep ignoring my sons problems even though that he has been locked in a detention center for over the past almost 2 years, except for 3 months. 
They are saying now that I had that called them (cps) but they never investigated it (cps) because they didn't feel it was important but 12 years later they want to say it is my fault. I use to live in a goverment apartment that every time sombody got pissed they called cps on you out of spite. If it was so bad why didn't they come investigate it? Now they are trying to say that my son asked a neighbor for food, when he was 3 and it was tramtic for him, because I didn't give him food. My son never has went a day in his life without proper food. 
Help, I feeling like my son will never get the help he needs, and I feel like I am just becoming more and more depressed. I have never did anything wrong to my kids except maybe have a patner that wasn't the best for either of us and yell at my kids. 
What would you do?

AmberP · Accepted Answer

Let me guess something here...RAD??!! If they are saying that is what your son has, they are full of so much crap I would certainly hope their eyes are brown! 
Doctors like to try to find a reason why a child is acting the way that they are, and more often than not the kid is diagnosed with "the sins of the mother" which is something that has little to no bearing with why your son is the way that he is! You've been getting help for your child for YEARS, you, deep down, know that you have done everything that you can and could have done for your son. 
What would i do..go to a different doctor, i know this isn't an option for you right now, but take what they are saying to you with a grain of salt.. re read my story.. They have tried to pull this one on me too, and I argued the fact with them and Won! You may not be able to do this for yourself right now, but you know very well that this is not your fault. Don't let these people bring you down!

judo · Answer

hi there!
The only thing that I can tell you is that these are a bunch of accusations from people who feel the need to point the finger so that they don't have to take responsibility themselves.
CPS is over and done with. Trust me, they could have made your life a living hell had they felt the need to pursue. They dropped it, and things are what they are. Unless this is something that your son is confronting you about, let those dogs lie with the trash. If it is something that has become an issue now between you and your son, maybe you could have a mediator/counselor have a session or two with you both to resolve this issue between you.
Refuse to let them kick you down, just for today. You can get through today, knowing that it may not have turned out exactly as you had hoped it would with your son, but you did the best that you could with what you had to work with.

Greeneyed · Answer

I am sorry for the situation you are in but i can not give you any advice because I have no idea what you can do that your not already doing.
Keep on trying everything you can for your son.
((((<hugs>))))

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