Lack of intimacy, anger, resentment?

Sorry but I dont believe this is all his problem. I think you are not being honest about why you two are not communicating. I do know that if you want a future with this man than the problems you two have must be solved as a couple and not by one person changing alone. You do it together or you stop pretending like you are in a relationship please.

Sometimes the voices in our heads are telling us what is reality that we are flogging a dead horse that it can't be saved no matter what you try to do to it. Even though the head is trying to tell you this the emotional things come rushing in and override them not wanting to give up something that the heart has given so much to. Those emotions are the things that keep so many people in a bad relationship just the feeling of being a part of something bigger or being afraid of being alone it overrides the reality of the situation. Those little voices is what you probably should be listening to.

The key to an enchanted love is the desire to give to the other person. When you express your needs for desire, affection and intimacy and it goes ignored, resentment, anger and frustration are bound to come up. The reason we go into relationships is to be in an enchanted love where we feel that the other person "sees" us. If you're not getting that and it's been a year and you've spoken to him on numerous occasions, I feel your pain. But do not belittle how you're feeling or think that you have to be "patient" for him. What if this doesn't change? What if this is who he is and this is how he loves and this is the level of intimacy that he's able to give?

You see, it's not whether someone loves you that counts; it's whether they "choose" you and when I say choose you I mean do they get up everyday and make the effort to create a wonderful experience of love and affection for you, not because they're getting something out of it, but because it brings a smile to their face to see one on yours?

Women especially get caught up in marrying someone with "possibility" instead of going for "actuality", not knowing that what you sign up for is what you agreed to love for better or for worse. Unconditional love means love without conditions so, if he never changes this behavior, if nothing changes, can you honestly say you'll be able to stay in the relationship? That answer will tell you whether what you're feeling is a passing thing or a lasting thing.

I'm someone who held out on "possibility" for 10 years and, after 10 years, it finally dawned on me that possibility was never going to become actuality. Don't take forever to figure out that people are who they are. It's not our job to change them. It's our job to change ourselves. Be well...

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There is no legitimate excuse to ignore your partners needs for this long. I don't understand why you married in the first place. Personally I would have already left. It seems he only wanted a figure head for a wife. Sorry!

you need to think of something else and get your mind off sex for now since you know its not going to happen. You are torturing yourself the most you can do is self pleasure yourself but that won't be intimacy just relieve some frustration.

exercise, it will release endorphins in your body and help with the feelings you got going on. if your planning some counseling, try to journal once a day and jot down how you were felling and what ticked you off or what he did or said, but on the same note, if something good happens or he makes you smile jot that down too. it will be good for you to see a pattern and maybe helpful for the counselor you see to also read whats going on. maybe get crazy and go to Fredrick's of hollywood or Victoria's secret and buy something skimpy, try laying rose petals around or lighting some candles one night...try to spark his interest. if you go thru all that and he still is stand offish...then something else is going on. good luck!

what sort of personal issues does he have that you cannot discuss them with him - ? he could come here to answers and we could all help him to talk abot it - no need for a counselor

I think if he wont talk about it u should say either talk or i walk as simple as that - say to him i cant lie in a loveless no intamate marriage this is not my idea of a true marriage andi want more and what are u going to do about it ?

that should help

if your husband has agreed to go to counseling you should be happy dear.....and you cannot stand back and point the finger at him, it takes two to make a happy healthy satisfying marriage, so in the meantime, quit acting like a victim and realize you are in this together....

the point is go to couseling and try that other wise put your foot down and get to the bottom

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