who was in the delivery room when you had your baby?

There is no right or wrong other than what ever you and your partner are jointly comforable with is right.

My deliveries were a full house. Mom / Dad / mother and father in laws / sister in laws / sisters / Husband / my grandma even wanted to come to one. I even had a class of nursing students file in for one of mine. Both my husband and I felt that this was what was right for us.

In contrast I have friends who were only comfortable with their partner being there and others still that felt that her mother could come but not his.

The best way to deal with it is to sit down together with an open mind and talk about it. Making a decision together that you are BOTH happy with.

Bear in mind that this is a wonderful experience to become parents. However your wife will have a lot of pain and often most women go into child birth the first time very scared. (I was scared every time) For most people our mother has been there all our life when things were bad. as a kid mom is the one that bandages scratched knees and she is the one that holds your hand during stitches or broken limbs. If you try to imagine yourself going though a very painful and possibly very scary experience it is likely you will find that not only would you want your wife there, but that you would want your mother there too.

This does not mean that you are not enough by any means. It is simply human nature, we want our mothers there for things that are scary because all our life,even before we remember, they were the ones who comforted us.

I personally only wanted my husband there because it is a really intimate time for a couple and I just didn't see how my mom, though i love her dearly, should be there. however, I did have a doula there who helped me and my husband through the delivery and it was very helpful. so my suggestion is that you ask her mother to be there in the waiting room and let her know that sometimes you will ask her to come in to the room to help. Labor can be really really long and intense and like that you can leave the room to get something to eat, drink, stretch, pee, sleep...whatever you want, but not leave your wife alone. (you know, like trading off a little, so that you both get to have that special time with her) also you may not know how to handle your wife's pain and your mothe in law may surprise you with her know how. with her there you can talk to your wife and be by her head while her mom massages her feet or back or whatever. it's a win win situation. then you can play it by ear about where you want her when the baby is coming out- you may really appreciate her presence and feel a bond with her, or you may want to politely ask her to leave for that part and come in to see the baby when its born. i personally didn't even want anyone in the waiting room because that seems like a lot of pressure, but if she wants her mom in the room that might be a good compromise.

It depends on how close she is with her mother. I only wanted my husband and I in the room for delivery as its our moment but if my mom felt strongly about being there I may have done it.

After the first child the second time it didn't matter as much. If you plan on having more than one child ask your wife if you can do this together the first time and she can have family in the room the next time.

Good luck

The only people in the room were me, my husband, the doctor and 2 nurses. I would sit down with your wife and find out why she wants her mom there. Is it a comfort thing or just a life experience she wants to share with her mother? Lots of women have their mothers or other people in the room with them. My mom and mother-in-law were at the hospital all day with me, but when it came time to actually start pushing they went into the waiting room because I wasn't comfortable having them in there.

Well don't be selfish her mom and you can be with her if it's a vaginal delivery but if is a C section then is only one person allowed so has to be you cause you are the dad. I Think that is a very spacial and really hard moment and we want the people we loved to be with us. I think both can stay there think about your wife. It is very common it's her mom the women who gave her birth.

Its actually quite common for the mother to be in the room and personally i think its a good idea her being in their as your wife does want her their

Well, no offence (I hope I don't come off snobby) but she's the one giving birth, she should get to choose whatever makes her comfortable. I had my sister and my husband in the room with me for my first, and I plan on doing it the same way with my second. It's actually really common, depending on how close her and her mother is. My mom is sort of... mentally unstable, so I would prefer not to have her in the room with me. Of course, that's just my family and my situation.

Well, I see both points of view; but I would side with you. This is really between you and your wife and should be your moment, welcoming your new baby.

With the births of my first and second children, it was just me and my husband. We subsequently were divorced and several years later, I had another child. The father of this baby took off as soon as I found out I was pregnant. My mother and my oldest daughter (14 at the time) were in the delivery room for the birth of baby #3. It was a moving experience for all of us!

My husband. My mom was in the room for part of the labor, but stood outside the door for the birth - her pacing was making it hard for me to concentrate.

If your wife wants her mom in the room, its fine. She needs all the support she can get.

All the best.

Me, husband, doctor, nurse. Nobody else. It's really up to you two as a couple. I would say though if your wife would feel more comfortable with her mom then you should allow it. She is ripping a baby out of her vagina after all.