when calling in for your sick spouse does his boss have the right to hang up and speak to you any old way?

Ok ok he should still conduct himself in a business like manner. He is suppose to be a professional after all. I'm referring to your husband boss by the way. Anyway things happen, and he should understand that. That's why there's such thing as an "Unforeseen Circumstances" Clause. That's what sick days are for too.

Wait a minute. Why are some people here attacking the questioner??? She's asking for advice and some are being vicious. Her situation could happen to any of you.

Your doctor's note should be sufficient and I believe he's entitled to under the Family Medical Leave (not sure how that works, as I've never had reason to use it) but look into it before filing charges. I believe as long as he's under it, he's allowed a certain amount of days and cannot be fired, if so, the company could be held liable-then file charges if this happens.

I'd also have the Doctor stipulate that he has to relieve himself "due to his condition" and someone should be available for him to do so, even if it means his supervisor. Denying him could hold the company liable.

His boss was rude. What he doesn't get is Fate has a strange way of dealing cards: "Be very careful how you treat others because eventually you'll be treated in the same way."

Good luck - and hope your husband gets better.

3 things here.

1) If your husband was on the floor alone, he could have asked to be relieved for a couple of minutes to go to the bathroom.

2) If there was no one else around, in an emergency, he should have just left, its doubtful that it would've made that much difference.

3) His not being able to leave the floor had nothing to do with the kidney stone. I know that, I had a kidney stone problem which resulted in surgery.

Therefore, I would suggest that you simmer down, and take care of your husband, and when he is able to talk to his boss, let him make the call then.

If you call him in your frame of mind, you will definitely make things worse rather than better. You might be the problem here, not his boss.

All I have to say is that your husband boss do not have the rights to hang up on u or disrespect u in any kind of way only cause u called in sick for your husband,atleast u called and u have a doctor notes,so your husband can not loose his job because he was in the E.R plus he has Doctor notes.If your husband loose his job for calling in sick and have proof that he was in the doctor try to get a lawyer

.Maybe your husband boss got upset cause he wasn't coming to work.But either way I wish u luck and No the boss should not disrespectful u no matter what or hang up on u.God Bless hope your husband gets & feel better soon.

you arent making it easy for your husband to continue working there. can he afford to lose this job? will he find another.

if i were you i would suggest you let your husband make the calls so you dont end up costing him his job out of anger.

they cant fire him for being sick but if they feel he is being neglectful by not calling in sick himself then they may find a way.

unless he is unconcious there is no reason he cant call himself. not to be unsympathetic. kidney stones are very painful but people often work through the pain. so a phone call from him directly does not seem unreasonable

what you need to do is stay civil and document your situation from now on. follow up all verbal communications with emails. so that if he is let go you can sue him

edit : I DID SAY UNLESS he was unconcious. clearly by your ignorant email to me he was near enough to that state. you have every right to feel bitter but if he is that big a jerk then its up to your HUSBAND to leave his own job if hes not happy. He's a grown man.

If you know that he is in no position to leave, then your stirring it up, in this time of medical crisis is not supportive to him in any way at all.

you have your note. just wait till the dust settles then if anything happens at work when he returns see a lawyer.

The boss should not talk to you or your spouse that way. You have to understand that as a boss, the boss has probably had other spouses call in instead of the employee just because the employee was out running around town or not really sick and if the boss talked to the employee, the boss would know that the employee was not really sick.

I agree that the boss is a jerk but what charges are you going to file against him? Being a jerk isn't illegal. If I were your husband I would be looking for other employment, although I do know in today's climate that isn't going to be easy.

Well...

Its morally and ethically incorrect for your boss to speak to your spouse that way.

If your boss is upset he should keep it to himself and use his vocabulary to communicate his disapproval.

On the OTHER HAND... You have an employee state of mind. So that is your problem, not his. Understand that your employer schedules you for a reason. He or she needs you to do a task. When you call out, it presents a hardship for them.

Now on your side I see that sometimes, things happen. People get sick, people get in car accidents, babysitters don't show up, relatives die. It happens.

But as a counter-point, unless you are physically incapable of coming to work to do your job (example, piano falls out of the sky and crushes you), you should come to work.

I'm sorry your boss treats you bad and if what you are telling me is true, I don't feel you or anyone should treat you like that.

But once again as a counter-point, it sounds like you are a piss-poor employee that rather take care of their personal business then come in when scheduled so he does have a very valid point about being angry at you. Besides, you didn't even have the courage to call yourself.

You should be lucky to have a job honestly. If I was your boss, I would have fired you. No one likes working with a non-team player. Don't take a offense. That would be irrational. I am just being honest. I mean, you did ask our opinions.

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