Maid of Honor!! I need lots of HELP!!!?

Congrats, first of all. It is a big honor to be asked to be maid of honor. Basically, your promary job during the planning process is to be the bride's right-hand woman. She may ask you to come along with her to dress fittings, or to choose flowers, taste menu items, interview DJs, whatever! You will be there mostly to lend support and provide an opinion if you are asked for one, but mostly yours is a position of moral support.

You are correct that you are in charge of organizing a bridal shower and a bachelorette party for the bride as her wedding day draws closer, but remember that she also has other friends who are bridesmaids in the wedding. You'll have to use your best organizational and communication skills to get them all on the same page and compromise when it comes to planning these parties.

Mostly, though, you are there as the bride's best friend, the one she wants standing up there at the altar with her on her big day. She'll need you as a friend more than anything in the next few months- a shoulder to cry on if something's not going quite right, someone to giddily obsess over wedding-related stuff with, etc. She'll let you know what she needs help with, and if it's in your capacity to help her, then do. But don't feel bad saying "no" every now and then. I'm sure your friend is a lovely girl who understands that you still have your own life, but some people out there actually get angry when their MOH's life doesn't revolve around the wedding 24/7! Good luck.

Damn Jessie D! Is that the responsibilities of the maid of honor or the wedding planner :). I agree with some of the things on Jessie's list.

1. Of course the bridal shower and the bachlorette party.

2.Help with the invitations

3. Helping out with any decisions that they bride maybe stuck on.

4. Making sure the bride is on time.

5. Holding of the flowers at the wedding

6. Holding of the ring.

7. Holding of the tissue in case of crying,

8. Don't forget the speech/toast at the reception.

Just be there for her whenever she needs you.

Good Luck!

Make sure you get that chair she sits on @ the bridal shower, an umbrella and wishing well...LOL.

I was the maid of honor @ my best friends wedding, and that was my very first time as well. See we're Romanian and we do things a bit different, and she married an american guy, and i didn't know we were supposed to have all those things...Oh the looks I got from her in laws @ the shower...Oh boy,...LOL...so remember, some fancy chair, an umbrella and a wishing well

Technically, you are only obliged to provide yourself with appropriate attire, to show up at rehearsal and wedding appropriately dressed, and to behave well at both. But we both know that brides do not rely solely on the technical etiquette advisors like Miss Manners and Emily Post. Brides are greatly influenced by magazines and web sites sponsored by The Wedding Industry, and these media exist to sell, sell, sell. For all we know, your bride may be expecting you to arrange and pay for a seated luncheon for 120 at Snootyville Country Club.

As always, I strongly urge brides and attendants to work out a detailed agreement about what the brides expects each of you to do, to buy. By detailed I mean "Be available all weekend every weekend in August and September" instead of "Help me shop," and "Arrange and pay a staggette in the VIP Room at Chippendale's with chauffered stretch limo for party of 10" instead of "Give a hen night." I know this sounds very cold and business like, but too many Wedding Drama questions go

"My bride thinks I have no life of my own and a money tree in my back yard. How can I tell her nicely that I can't afford to spend any more to be in her wedding, and that I can't spend every weekend going shopping with her?

or

My bridesmaids just aren't doing their duty. The wedding is only 8 weeks away and no one has planned a shower or bachelorette or spa day for me. When I ask them about it, they tell me they can't afford it when I know they all have good jobs. What to do?

And actually, you might try to convince your bride that a Bridal Luncheon would be better than a shower. Think surprise birthday parties: if your friends get together and plan something, that is wonderful, but if you delegate some friend to act as a promoter and create such a group where none actually exists, it is pretty pathetic not to mention greedy looking.

Your "official" duties include hostessing the bridal shower and coordinating the bachelorette party. Unofficially you have to be there for the bride, she will probably ask you to go dress shopping, or to the florists. Sometimes the husband to be will accompany her, but if he's not the type, you will probably be asked to fill in. Also help keep the other bridesmaids in line, and you will be the witness on the marriage certificate. Basically, just be there for her as much as possible and hope she's not a Bridezilla!

The MOH usually plans the bachelorette party and often the bridal shower (or at least, she usually helps!). She stands next to the bride at the ceremony, holds her flowers, helps with her dress, and sometimes gives a toast at the reception. Ask her what she expects of you... if she wants you to give a toast, come with her to vendor meetings, dress fittings, etc. It's different for every bride. Just be there for her!

Ask her! Your jobs are to show up, knowing where to stand and being appropriately dressed, and signing the register. Obviously this means attending the rehearsal, and getting the dress, etc. However, as can be seen here, a lot of women expect more. You don't want to disappoint the bride by having her expect more than you do. Nor do you want her to feel obligated to come up with work for you to do, because you think you need to take over the dog and pony show.

he Maid of Honor's (MOH) responsibilities include:

1.Attending all prenuptial parties.

2.Help address invitations and announcements.

3.Entertain a party for the bride and groom…if possible. This could be a couple's shower.

4.Assist bride with going away clothes and luggage.

5.Be sure that bridesmaids are kept aware of their fitting appointments, rehearsal obligations and any special duties that the bride may wish for them to do.

6.Arrange with a florist for a supply of rose petals to shower on the bride and groom as they leave. If a flower girl is in the party, she is responsible to see that the child knows when and how to do this.

7.Arrive at the church,or wherever the wedding maybe, or home of the bride early enough to help with bride and bridesmaids with dressing (at least 2 hours early).

8.Remind the best man which ladies will be wearing their flowers (Mother, grandmothers, organist, soloist, hostesses, etc.).

9.Assist bride with her train during ceremony and in the receiving line.

10.Hold the bride's wedding bouquet for the exchange of rings during the ceremony and hand it back just before the recessional.

11.In a double ring ceremony, carry the groom's ring until it is time to hand it to whomever maybe holding it during ceremony.

12.Assist the photographer with identification of the members of the bridal party and later for pictures, which are taken at the church and reception. Be sure to find the kind of candid shots the bride may want of the out-of-town guests. Be certain the photographer has taken an appropriate number of these candid shots.

13.Witness and sign the marriage certificate after the ceremony.(if applicable)

14.Stand in the receiving line.If there is one. The traditional place to stand is at the groom's left side with her bridesmaids to her left.

15.Assist the bride when she is ready to change into here going away ensemble.

16.With the best man, help the couple depart.

17.See that the bride's gown is taken care of according to her wishes. Usually taken to the bride's home or to a cleaner.

Remember, this is the bride's day. Your job is to assist the bride and help her day be as carefree and special as possible. As a maid of honor, you should set the tone among the women in the bridal party. Stay cool and never out shine the bride. It truly is an honor to serve.

Depends what kind of bride she is. I'm getting married, and I'm pretty organized. I don't need much assistance. But my MOH is very organized as well, so all I'm really doing is keeping her updated (pretty much weekly) as to what's happening and what I'm working on. She always says, "so what do you need help with right now?" Usually I don't need help with anything. Sometimes I want her help price-shopping, sometimes I want her help brainstorming. These are not in her job description, but - as things come up, she knows my opinions. I trust her to just handle problems if I can't do it myself.

Really - you're her right-hand woman. Especially these days, traditional bridal etiquette doesn't always apply. Just be there for her and be ready to jump in and tackle whatever she needs you to!

Also... one of the best wedding resources I've found - for ideas, etiquette, styles, and everything in between is theknot.com. :)

Good luck!!

go with her to as many dress appointments as possible, help her and be there for her when she needs u...plan the bridal shower....u just really gotta be there for her.