Am I overreacting? Opinions needed!?

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Question about a death in the family?
I have a half sister who is 6 years older than me that lives in the same state as the remainder of my father's side of the family, (we have the same dad), and I live 5 hours away in another state. The thing is we never met each other until she was 12 and I was 6, and our relationship has always been a little awkward, because she thought that my father had supported me, instead of her as well. And even now, I'm 26 and shes 31 and it's still that way, for whatever reason beyond me. 

My grandfather passed and she is the only person I have contact info for. He's been dead for 7 days hours and she never called to tell me. How I found out he passed was that my sister put on her "status quo" in Face book that out grandfather had passed, 20 hours before I found out, and all her friends knew as well. So when I called her we spoke on the phone for 5 minutes, and I asked her, how is everything and what's going on and she said nothing. So when I finally asked how my grandfather was doing, (even though I knew he passed), and that's when she finally told me. I am so pissed that we were on the phone for 5 minutes and she never mentioned a thing, until I asked how my grandfather is doing.

As far a the funeral because I only have her number and no one elses, I called to asked about the funeral arragements, and she said she din't know anything, but when I called my brothers wife 5 minutes later she told me about the arrangements, and also told me that she spoke to my sister and notified her of the arragements early on that day, before I spoke to my sister later on that day, when she told me that she didn't know anything.

Am I over reacting? What's your opinion?

ruleroframen · Accepted Answer

I would be so mad and she probably just doesn't like the fact that your her HALF-sister.
I have a half sister who resents my real sister and I because if we were never born, our dad could have spent more time with her. We don't even talk and we don't treat each other like sisters at all. Why don't you just be straight forward and ask, "Why didn't you tell me and why are you lying? He was my grandfather too."

jencsi · Answer

It seems that she has issues with just you, possibly due to your past relationship but she needs to act more mature about it. There was a death in the family and she knew you would need to know yet she kept it from you. Having to find out from Facebook is not good. Try talking to her but don't get angry just ask her why she won't tell you important things. If that doesn't work have someone else in your family talk to her. Good luck. hope this helps.

Gabie · Answer

You aren't over reacting, you just are mad that your sister is treating you like this. You have a bit of a rough past with her, but I think what you two need to do is just get together sometime, maybe for lunch, and work it out. Find out why she isn't telling the truth, and try to get closer to her. Even if you don't like her or she doesn't like you, you are sisters.

Lesg · Answer

no way are tou overeacting she should have told you and it seems very spitefull and she is living in the past useing misfortunes like a death to get one over its really sad to hear that someone cant for one day put the past whare it belongs and stick togehter im real sorry to hear bout your loss and i would hold your head up high and not rise to her pathetic games poeple who know and love you will understand your feelings about this i dont know if your relaysionship is worth saveing you sound like you know whats moraly wrong or right at least you can go to bed with a clear conscience hope it goes well chin up!!!!!

Douglas B · Answer

There are times to put differences aside and do the right thing, for people who have to make arrangements to attend and for time off from work.  She was being petty about the whole thing.  Just try to be civil around her and you will remember her as one who you do not want to spend much time with or have on your back side.

catchthelight · Answer

You aren't close with your sister. She acted in accordance with that relationship. Why would you expect her to act differently when you guys don't really get along?

It was polite of her, and it's understandable that your feelings are hurt, but unless you can figure out way to become closer and a more loving family, you can't really expect more out of her than what she gave you.

Be happy that you found out through other family members and move on.

stone · Answer

no, i would be mad as h***. you have every right to be pissed. tell her what you think of her lies. that is no way to act. she sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do and needs to know what (forgiveness) is all about.

sarah♥ · Answer

She sounds like a b**ch that doesn't like you. 
Just don't talk to her. It doesn't appear that she wants to associate with you...

$$melanie$$ · Answer

u r so not over reacting u should talk to her about it

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