opinions on this moral dilemma pls?

how do u know about him,after that u will meet, took more information then u can decided him

Hopefully this is your husband's colleague's one-and-only wedding. Be happy for her. Be supportive. Isn't that what you'd want for yourself? This is her wedding and she should plan it anyway she wants. You're not invited. I'm not invited. Okay, so we'll have to find something else to do that day. But don't take what should be a happy occasion for someone else and try to make it all about you.

I think you should encourage your husband to go, to have a great time, and to congratulate the bride and groom for you!

Capital punishment is a moral dilemma. Abortion is a moral dilemma. Dropping a nuclear bomb is a moral dilemma. Trying to manage the hurt feelings of a spouse while at the same time not offending a colleague from work is ... just a shame.

With all due respect, I'd like to suggest to you the spouses are the problem in this situation, not the woman who wants have a wedding. And whether you agree with me or not, I hope we can agree your husband isn't the problem. He's caught between your (potentially confused) feelings and his co-worker's. What do you think is best for him? (and before you answer... think back to your own wedding vows)

Good luck.

This is one of those situations where you need to know the person to be able to answer this question. Does everyone believe that this is the reason why the partners weren't invited? If you are good friends with this person and believe the small venue story, you should want to be there on the big day. If you think the story is a bunch of baloney and she is just out to get gifts, then decline the invitation, as it is rude to do this. But you really have to be there to be able to make that judgment.

Okay, here's the thing. She thought she was being polite by inviting her coworkers by unfortunately she ended up with a huge breach of ettiquette by not inviting their spouses. Give her credit for trying I guess.

The solution--the coworkers should should have a little get together with her before the wedding, give her a nice gift they chipped in to buy and respesectfully decline to attend the wedding. Thus she is still getting congratulations from her coworkers but the pressure is off.

No, if the spouses are not invited then don't go. That is very rude of her and she is putting her friends between a rock and hard spot. Weddings are suppose to be with friends and family. People you love to be around and if the spouse isn't invited then don't go.

I would pass on the whole thing. If they did not have the money to invite spouses, they should not have invited anyone.

Sounds like they know people won't come, but that they want a gift!

i think she invited her coworkers out of politeness. i agree with her - i wouldn't want to waste money on some people i have never seen and never will see again (i mean coworkers' partners). family and friends is one thing, those u should invite with spouses or partners. but coworkers - i agree with her. this is between u and your husband to decide whether he goes alone or not. but i bet this woman planned that coworkers wouldn't attend her wedding without their partners. she invited them out of politeness. and this dumb idiot who said if she doesn't have enough money to invite her coworkers' partners she shouldn't have a wedding -she is an idiot. people have different situation with money and nobody should postpone the marriage because of coworkers' partners.

If one can not afford to invite their co-worker's spouses, they shouldn't be inviting their co-workers. Even better, they should not be having a wedding at all unless just the two of them at the courthouse if they can't afford it to invite complete couples.. I mean if 5 more people are going to bust ones wedding budget, then they need to save more money before even getting married.

I wouldn't go to a wedding without my husband, our weekend time is precious to us as we both work long hours during the week

An invitation is exactly that - it's not a demand, no-one has to go if they don't want to

She invited her co-workers out of politeness. It would be normal to expect couples to attend a marriage, nothing less. I would be extremely uncomfortable to do so without my spouse.

If you intend to give a present, drop by the 2 of you at the reception for half an hour.

Otherwise, let them have their marriage with their inner family.

IF THE QUESTION REALLY IS AFFORDABILITY, then allow the co workers to attend the chursh, then LEAVE. Go to dinner with your spouse and then the happy couple can save money and ccelebrate their couple status as you celebrate yours. Intimate and alone. Respect the wish to be married, but now way to the reception apart.