how would you discipline this child?

I think you're going to have to talk to then, and they are not going to want to hear you. I'd explain nicely and calmy that you can't keep helping out if they wont teach their boy to grow up as a pleasant person. That they won't realise it , they think they're being nice, but that he need boundaries to fit in with society and at the moment he seems to be being rewarded for bad behaviour.

You can tell them you find it difficult to mention,but you're only doing it because you care, you want them to all be happy and for him to grow up being a good person, not a bully, and you aren't doing it to hurt their feelings, and you know you don't get everything right, but that you can see they will have big problems when hes older.

Show them by example, tell them by buying him chocolate after hitting someone that he thinks that he was being shown it was the right way to behave.

A lot of parents do things that way, they're lucky they have you to help them out, Good luck

It's just as important to reward you child for good behavior as it is to discipline them for bad. How you do both will change as the child ages. Babies don't get discipline. They cry and it will bother you and that's just tuff because that's what you signed up for. When they start doing things like pulling your hair or grabbing your jewelery it's not to be bad, it's just curiosity. When a child is 2-3ish it is very important to establish who's in charge because some children will test you to see just how much they can get away with. First you should never just go spank a child when they do something wrong. They need to be told NO first and it might work well to give them something else to do. An *** beating that raises welts and leaves hand prints is never acceptable or called for but when a child has been warned not to do something and they defiantly do it anyway they need a swat or two on the butt. If you call them and they run away from you, same thing. Then when the crying stops you calmly sit with the child and tell them why they can't do that. Explain why something might be dangerous. If you spanked your child then you better have a good reason for it. Even small children can understand more than most people think. Giving answers like "because I said so" doesn't explain anything. Saying "because you could get hurt" or "you might break something" will make more sense to them and give them proper guidelines. You want your child to be able to decide right and wrong on their own so give them the knowledge to do that. I have 2 adult children. Each of them was spanked a total of twice. They needed it. After that all I had to do is ask them if they needed another. Since we already established that I wasn't bluffing, they generally didn't push the issue. I never had to do it again.

There is nothing you can do it is not your child and if someone told me how to raise my child I wouldn't be pleased - saying that, your sister doesn't have a clue, she has let him away with too much. I would tell her you wont be coming down with your child as your child always has nightmares when she has been playing with him - don't go back and it might make your sister do something about her sons behaviour. I am a lot older than you because my daughter is 29 and I have 2 grandchildren and they wouldn't dare behave like your nephew - they spend a lot of time in the naughty corner but I think a slap on the bum never harmed any child.

If he continues this behaviour, you won't have to worry about him getting worse in school next year, he won't last a week before they kick him out. I also think that if the child goes in doing this, it is a red flag for child services... children repeat learned behaviour.

I have a friend that doesn't control her children, when my daughter is around, and he hurts her, I put him in time out... my friend says nothing to me about it, he is NOT going to bully my daughter and get away with it! If she is not taking control of the situation, someone has to. She never says anything because she KNOWS her child should be punished for the things he does she just doesn't know how or doesn't care to herself. I would never spank him, but time out is a place he needs to be sometimes!

oh my god! what a brat! smacking isn't the answer, but a stickied routine is the answer, you need to sit down with your sister and tell her straight that he needs real discipline. if she's adult about it she should take this as help not your way of putting her down. he needs to be completely ignored when he's being naughty. any attention is rewarding to him. when he is good, i.e. says thank you or gives good fortune to others he should be praised with a 'well done' and a 'thank you'. he should have a warning when he does something naughty, if he's been asked to do something and refuses, or if he needs to apologies for something. make him realize that what he has done is wrong and he will be put on the stairs (naughty spot) if he does it again. give him 3 warnings and on the 3rd take him without fuss to the bottom step and tell him 'you will sit here for 3 minutes' and walk away, give him no attention while he's there (also make sure he cannot see the T.V or have anything to distract him, it has to be boring) if he gets up put him back until he has sat for 3 minutes, keep it up if he's persistent. when he has done his 3 minutes tell him eye to eye why he was put there and it was wrong what he did. have a hug and a kiss and let him be. (if he still needs to apologize then make him do that before he continues.) please make sure you let your sister know her partner cannot give chocolate for any tantrum and if he hit me in the face he would go to the naughty spot without warning! he will not be excepted at school if he's violent towards others, also does he go to a playgroup or nursery? this will give him structure and teach him to play with others. don't worry about your sister she needs to be told. also her health visitor should be able to advise her as well hope this helps. good luck and your a loving sister and auntie!!

Your sister's idea of discipline is to smack him really hard and scream at him. Where do you think he has learnt his behaviour? If you feel uncomfortable speaking to her about it, is there anyone else that can speak to her about it? At 3 years old, his behaviour is modelled on the behaviour of those around him. He is not going to have a very bright future if all he knows is hurting others to get his own way.

This is going to teach your daughter that this behavior is okay. I know you love your sister but there is some type of display of this form happening in fron of him to even learn this....also they are going to kick him out of school if he starts this behavior there it sonds like your sister and her partner need to go to a parenting class to help they dont really know what they are doing im not being mean and know this is your sister but my daughter is 3 also and understands there is bounderies I couldnt imagine her hitting me with a golf club then getting the chocolate that is so insane but to hit you with it you are a strong women I believe children need spankins but you have to pick your battles this child is only going to get worse if they dont relize the error of there ways

simple dont take ur daughter there

secondly it is up to them to disiplin there child not you!!

what r u going to do when ur child is at school?, go round and tell the other children off.

Have you watched that show on TV called super nanny? They think that the child only does what they think is normal, in other word what they can get away with.....have you tried the nouty? chair step corner.......?

distance your child from your nephew and buy your sis some parenting books.