Was this the right thing to do?

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Friend A's birthday in on the 21st of May, but she made plans to celebrate it on the 23rd of May. However, she forgot that the 23rd is the birthday of Friend B's father, and Friend B already has plans with her family on the 23rd.

Friend B told me all of this, but said she didn't want to ask Friend A to change her plans to the 24th of May. Let me point out that Friend A said, specifically, "If there's any problems with this, an alternate day is 24th". 

I decided to e-mail Friend A and tell her about Friend B's predicament, but asked if she would mind not mentioning that I did so; for example, just imply that she remembered Friend B's father's birthday, or pretend I had the problem with the date. 

Was this the right thing to do?

Afi · Accepted Answer

Sounds OK
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BBG · Answer

You sound like a sweetheart and I know you meant well.  I'm glad this incident has turned out ok.  

That being said, It's usually best not to say one thing to one friend about another friend and ask them not to tell.   

Just keep in mind that people who interfere with the intention of making everyone happy sometimes end up making everyone unhappy.

Ayva · Answer

I think that you have been very thoughtful and considerate to both friends.  

You were the only one that seemed to know all of the information (ie, that the alternative date was already suggested, and the father's birthday date) so you were the only one that could have taken action.

You've done it subtly and ensured that everyone can join in.

Good for you!

Jacob · Answer

MYOB Mind Your Own Buisness. Unless your Friend A or B.

irishlady · Answer

I think you handled the situation well without drama Good for you

luditess · Answer

It's a little nosy - friend B should have spoken up for herself - but not too bad.

bhindmysmile · Answer

yea it sounds like you handled it well. hopefully everything works out for you : )

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