A question about polygamy?

I never said I was OK with that.

Yes, it would be better if the man made a commitment to each one rather than just sleeping around. But men aren't made that way, and even if they were, there aren't that many women who would go along with the program.

The problem with polygamy as practiced in the US is that the men who practice it are marrying 13 and 14 year old girls who don't have a choice in the matter. And if it was made legal, that would mean women could have several husbands. Men would never pass a law allowing that, and there aren't enough women in politics to get it passed on their own.

And yes, it is sad that no one makes an issue of guys who love 'em and leave 'em. I've always wondered why. You hear all kinds of talk about stopping teenage pregnancy, and the solutions always lie with the girls. Nobody ever thinks to 'educate' the boys.

It's good that you see this as a problem. It's not right for the guy in your first paragraph, and such a guy would be living in sin.

As for marrying all of them, scripture does make it clear that God's original design of marriage was for 1 man and 1 woman. Scripture also relates this model to Jesus and the Church.

But the polygamy issue shouldn't be related to only today's culture, for I have spoken with a Mormon woman who supported polygamy because the patriarchs married several women. But there are 2 explanations to raise:

1) -Adam never married more than 1 woman.

-Abraham married Hagar, but only because his wife, Sarah, emotionally insisted (you know how women sometimes get...you do what they say and don't ask questions). But this also bit him in the butt later, and even though Abe married hagar, Ishmael is still known as the son who was born in sin. So even though scripture says he married them both, God only honored the 1st marriage as the blessed one.

-And Jacob/Israel originally wanted Rachael, but was tricked into marriage with Leah. And when the Lord saw that Leah was despised, He made Rachel baron. You see, even though Jacob desired her more, God saw the first marriage and honored it over the man's desire.

2) In the Old Testament (especially in the beginning), God commanded that we subdue the earth and multiply. In order to do this, one often found reason to take several wives (once again though, not part of God's original design). Now in New Testament times, Jesus updated that command to "go and make disciples of all the nations". So the command to subdue and multiply has been accomplished...there's no more need to do so. Now, our mission is to make disciples of all these people who've subdued the earth.

So you see, according to God's design, marriage is with only 1 of each gender. The adding on of wives is a human thing, invented out of sin. But God only honors the first marriage.

Men are biologically programmed to impregnate as many potential-child-bearers as possible, while women are biologically programmed to find reliable mates (who will stay to care for the baby).

Also, polygamy (in the form of polygyny) is actually the most popular form of marriage in the world.

Just FYI.

As for my personal opinion, I really don't give a flying fcuk what consenting adults choose to do.

Who is OK with men fathering endless children they then abandon? No one I know thinks that is OK.

How do you suggest forcing men to marry before they father children? Frankly, if I made the mistake of bearing the children of such a 'man', I wouldn't want to spend my life with him and his other women, thanks.

There just aren't a lot of options in a free country.

It is not something I would ever want for myself.

However, the answers you got from others tell you they know very well you are right, but are afraid to admit it and rather blame it on a particular religion.

I don't want to lie. I can see the benefit it would bring to our society. though I would honestly hate it for myself.

As long as all concerned are consenting adults:

1) I don't care who you marry

2) I don't care what gender you marry

3) I don't care how many you marry

I don't think it will be too far in the future that we will see group marriages, polygamy, and polyandry made perfectly legal, along with same-sex marriage.

Of course. Polygamy in all its forms between those who willingly enter into that lifestyle must be recognized as a legitimate lifestyle choice.

Both are wrong and neither justifies the other. Extremes in religious thought and secularism are equally destructive. few want to admit it.

Damn you would have fit in perfect two hundred years ago in Utah, it's unfortunate you weren't there then, try Afghanistan, that could work in parts of there.

Only if the woman allows heself to be used.