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Am I being paranoid about my Fiance?
I recently moved in with my Fiance. (I actually moved to a whole new state since he is in the Navy.) It's been long time coming and we are both very happy to finally be living together. However, I feel like that since I moved in he hasn't been affectionate with me at all. He isn't the most affectionate person to begin with but this is a little extreme, even for him. I feel like I'm the one constantly initiating anything. I know we've both been adjusting to living together and I also know he's been a bit stressed at work so I'm not sure if that's why he's been a bit distant lately.
But I've also noticed that he seems to be texting a lot to people that he works with. He works with mainly woman (and I have not met any of them yet). So of course I'm getting a little jealous. He used to leave his phone around without really ever looking at it more than once a day. Now, I feel like he is texting a lot more and keeping it on him at all times without ever leaving it out (as if he's afraid I may pick it up without him around). I'm afraid of saying anything because he usually gets a little mad when I act jealous. He tells me I have nothing to worry about. But I can't help but feel nervous that something more is going on.
Am I overreacting?
5 Answers
- ?Lv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
Yeah, you're overreacting. What you need to do is to take your focus OFF of him and start sinking all of your attention into yourself. I know you're in a new state, so it might seem as if you have no where to turn to but him...but this is when you need to exercise your adulthood and grab the phonebook and start trying to line up things to do for yourself;ie; rent movies, join a church, go to the park, go job searching, decorate... Get involved in any and everything you can to use up all your free minutes and take your mind off "fixing" him...besides, the more you focus and pull on him, the more he will only fight you and drift away further.
He is going through a phase of committment that is very normal for guys! LOL! I call it Men-o-pause! LOL! It is a period of time when dudes drift away from their gals for a while.. could be weeks. LET HIM! He is losing attraction for you, so you will have to earn that back. This is how: Keep a pleasant attitude, enroll in all sorts of fun and exciting activities, appear so busy that you have to "pencil" him into your adjenda... and then watch as his curiosity starts to wonder about you! LOL! He will eventually want to be included in your fun, exciting and busy little world... and will be relieved that you didn't overreact and panic while he was going through men-o-pause! LOL!
Congradulations on the move, by the way
- Anonymous1 decade ago
"Now, I feel like he is texting a lot more and keeping it on him at all times without ever leaving it out (as if he's afraid I may pick it up without him around)."
That to me is a red flag. If he's hiding anything from you, it's probably not appropriate. Trust your instincts. And you don't want to drive yourself crazy throughout your whole relationship. At least you're not married yet. I would seriously think about whether or not this is the guy you should marry. Who wants to spend their whole life paranoid and afraid?
- Anonymous1 decade ago
no i had the same situation with my ex he made out it was me goin loopy go with your gut instinct i believe u can trust it ask him to meet the ppl his texting so u all can be freinds or ask him to have them ova for drinks if he falters pack u bags an run cause u have been saved baby girl from a hole heartache of pain once a cheater always a cheater
- Anonymous1 decade ago
well what i have to say is don't worry your probably just paranoid.
i mean now that ur living togheter you cant expect him to be all affectionate 24/7. give him time to adjust. and about the whole texting thing. check his texts. lol i know it sounds bad but just to get out of doubt:)
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