why are mothers so hostile to others?

Here here. What a valid point. I am a stay at home Mum to four lovely BOYS! I love it but am admiring of Mums who work. I couldn't do it. I would be too knackered to work and run my household. I recently had a baby ( he is ten weeks now) He was very ill with pheunomia within hours of birth ( sorry spelling) and if it wasn't for the 'working Mum nurses and other staff both at my local hospital and the bigger hospital where he was in neonatal for a week, he may not be here. So I am eternally grateful to Mums who can do these kind of jobs.x

Yeah, that's bs. but hopefully that's just a bad apple.

Because honestly I LOVE Moms!

I am a mother and sometimes I just look around the playground at all the mothers picking up their kids, or often I will see a mother communting to and from work... I truly often think...

"Damn, us mothers rock!"

Anyone who does things for the best interest of their child and does it with good intentions is a-ok to me. I don't care if you're a sahm or your a career Mom. In the end, most everything Mom's do is with their kids in mind.

I agree, I don't know why people have to look down on each other for different lifestyles.

I am a SAHM and my sister in law is a working mom( shes also my best friend). And we both respect each others differences and also try to help each other out. If she has a work issue I will take her kids so she can deal with it. If I need a break away from the house she will take mine. She don't think shes better and I don't think Im better. We are just both MOMS.

Agreed. I also hate how SAHM's tout they are SAHM's like its a choice. For many, MANY women, its not a choice, its a luxury. I would give anything to be a SAHM, but that just isn't realistic. I'm tired of feeling like I'm making some selfish or personal choice to work. You haven't seen me sit on the floor and cry my eyes out because I know I have to go back to work and my husband and I have exhausted all the options. Its painful enough knowing I have to leave my baby without other women judging me over a situation I had no choice over.

I feel the same way about mothers who judge eachother based on their decision to breast or bottle-feed. We're all moms who should support eachother, not pass harsh and critical judgement on eachother.

I think it would be wonderful if I could stay at home with my kids, but I don't have that option. Another person said that it is possible for everyone if you really make it work, implying that we could all stay home if we really wanted to. I disagree. Not every family of 4 can live off of 1 parents salary, no matter how many sacrifices you make.

I am a stay at home mum and have no problem with mothers who work, I have a problem with people who have children and can afford to stay home and raise them but choose to work and put them in daycare so they can have adult conversation etc. I think being a mother should be a selfless occupation, so if they can afford to stay home and raise their kids they should put their kids first and do so.

But you are slagging off SAH Mother's aren't you? Suggesting we have too much time on our hands ...and slag off other people as a response to that. Just because this Mother was being investigated for POSSIBLE neglect does not mean she is guilty of it. Social services after all do not have a very good reputation as far as child safety is concerned do they? So this woman was ignorant enough to air her feelings in an environment where people who may not agree with her were listening....that is not to say ALL SAHM are knocking other Mothers choices. You sound slightly bitter.

Could be many things....Jealousy, finances (one family has more money than the other), grades, talent, etc. you name it and when comparing families, it can get ugly, unfortunately!

It's cause they have nothing better to do :0)