Dispute with my hubby...what do you think?

I can understand his concern....Perhaps he's thinking of putting those funds to a different use.....What with your med school, and 3 young children.......Perhaps a compromise is in order, by creating a project for the two of you, with less expense. 10 years is a milestone. But then what would that leave for 20 years?! ♥♥

Absolutely go!! I can't say it enough. My husband's getting ready to start his fourth year in a little over a week. Your husband really doesn't have an understanding of the time crunch you and your family are going to be feeling shortly. Perhaps you can reach a compromise and plan a vacation that's not as expensive (1/2 or 3/4 as much), so you do have some extra cash about for those nights you need that babysitter to get some time alone. Not only is your school year going to be a heavy work load, but the down time in between is very short (and usually requires some studying). We made one last trip before my husband started his first year and are planning a trip before his residency starts (if were not moving). Congrats on starting school by the way and ten years of marriage, both are huge accomplishments and an your plans for an MD an even bigger endeavor. You should get in touch with your schools significant others clubs (code for being married or w/ kids), he can talk to others to get a grasp of what lies ahead and later use it as means to socialize with you an your classmates.

You are not being unreasonable in wanting to go away with him. But, you do need to compromise on this. The economic situation throughout the world has changed significantly in the past three years when you made the decision to go away for your 10 year anniversary trip. You need to be prudent taking into account that you may possibly still be looking at lay-offs for either your hubby or you. Look at where your dream vacation is (where you were planning for the $5k), look for something where maybe you would spend $2500 or $3000 so that you are able to keep some of that money for extra emergency fund (which if you don't have to dip into, you can use for that dream vacation at 15 year anniversary trip). You can go to a lot of really nice places for $2500 to $3000. Search for airline prices first thing in the morning Tuesday and Wednesday morning (this is when I have found them to be cheapest). See what Apple Vacations has for specials. Don't settle, but be prudent. Talk calmly with your husband about how you are willing to compromise about how much will be spent but that you still want to celebrate your anniversary by going away with him.

Congratulations on ten years of marriage. I think that it is wonderful that you saved all of that money for a nice trip. I say, plan a cruise. You can get great rates now and still have some of that saved money left over. A nice vacation is well deserved for you and your husband and you need time away for just the two of you. Go ahead and plan the vacation, with a cruise you would probably only spend only half of what you have saved. Do it and have a great anniversary.

No, I don't think you are being unreasonable. Both of you set out to do this. Sometimes a getaway is best when you least can afford it. Hope he sees your side and you go and have some fun together.

Also, please see his side as well. Let him know that you'd stick to the budget and will work at replenishing the funds for a rainy day when you get back. He is probably about upcoming student loan and all that too, you know.

Good luck and have fun. If my husband had listened to me everytime he plans a vacation, we would never have gone on 1. There will always be bills to be paid, and you just can't focus too much on that alone.

Is it necessary for you to spend the entire $5k? Right now there are some phenomenal deals, I would have to say $5k for two sounds high. You should absolutely go on this vacation, you have a necessity to take a much needed break from your children. Maybe your husband is not being upfront with your financial future, I would sit down and discuss things.

I said go and have fun, you only live once. Everyone needs a change of scenery. And away from the stress of everyday life. I think after 7 years you deserve a vacation. Doesn't mean you have to spend all the money.

I understand both points of view, and agree wholeheartedly that some time away together is imperative for both of you. Perhaps you could compromise - instead of a full vacation, take a mini-trip. Only go for 4 days. And go in the middle of the week to save more as well. That way you can still get away together without spending all the money.

You are not unreasonable at all. Maybe compromise by choosing a cheaper location or cut corners on hotels or transportation so that the entire budget isnt all spent. Maybe spend 3k on the vacation and pocket 2?

You definately deserve to get away. In my opinion, you deserve a long, nice vacation away together, but maybe compromise. Pick a nice place, not too expensive, not too far from home, you will enjoy and he won't worry about too much. There are a lot of options depending on what part of the country you're in.