If I stand in a bridal party should I approve of the wedding, or is it enough to approve of the marriage?

If you care about your friend and approve of them getting married then it shouldn't matter if you approve of the ceremony.

I was recently in my best friends wedding and she had it in a church and the service was extremely religious. I'm atheist but I went and stood by her because I love her and wanted her day to be special.

I've never heard of that being banned, where the bride is given away. and I've been to about 20 weddings. it should be phased out, because it's antiquated and woman aren't any man's property, but if that's a tradition the bride wants, then you have to deal with it. of course there are going to be elements of the wedding you don't like- I bet she's serving something at the dinner that you'd rather not eat, but that doesn't mean you don't approve of her and the groom getting married!

Are you kidding me? You are questioning whether or not to be in your friends wedding because you don't want that one little line to be said in your earshot? Give me a break.

1. It's the bride and groom's choice on what wording their officiant will say. If they want that in their because that tradition is important to them, then just let them do it without giving them a hard time.

2. You should be going because you want to support your friend because you are happy for her happiness. You're standing by her because she feels it's important for you to be there while she takes the next step in her life. Your approval of "how" this happens is not necessary.

3. Really, what is the big deal about "Who gives this woman to be married?" And what is the "obvious" reason why it has been "banned?" There's nothing wrong with it. It means that the father is ceremonially giving his daughter to her new husband in a traditional way - it doesn't mean the suppression of woman, in a way that the bride is now the husband's new slave or something. Get over it!

4. There's nothing wrong or inappropriate about this. I think that if you are sincerely offended by this, then you are way over-sensitive.

with the help of status up in a marriage, you're easily saying which you help the bride. in many situations, that still potential you approve of the marriage... yet even if in case you do not, you would be a supportive chum/relative of the bride. as an occasion, i don't (and could in all probability never) like my sister's boyfriend. yet whilst she have been to tell me the following day they have been getting married, i could help her decision even if if i do unlike him, and that i does not say a element (inspite of the fact that it is not comparable to he's abusive or something, I in basic terms discover him extremely stressful). i could nonetheless arise together with her and be very happy for her if she have been to question me. I actual have never heard of absolutely everyone not "approving" of a marriage, yet i could say that no, you at the instant are not implying which you approve of her selections in the thank you to have a good time her marriage. If that have been the case, each time a bride picked hideous bridesmaid outfits, or picked a fairy princess topic, or insisted on liberating stay butterflies - some bridesmaid rolls her eyes at that distinctive decision. maximum brides could run out of people to stand up with them if each individual "authorized" of each little thing bearing directly to the marriage. as far because of the fact the choice to be a bridesmaid, i could evaluate 2 issues: how stable a chum the bride is to you, and would you have the money for what it relatively is going to fee to be an attendant. once you're preserve in those 2 factors, i could say, arise such as your chum.

That's not for you to approve of. By standing up in your friend's wedding, you are giving your blessing to her marriage. Some brides really like the idea of being "given away" by their father or another family member, and it's not for you to tell her she can't follow that tradition.

first of all...where the heck do you live?! I have never heard of something as traditional as a father giving his daughter away being "banned"!?!?!? wtf

Second...take a chill pill. Its not YOUR wedding.....you were simply asked to stand up for you friend to SUPPORT the marriage...not to judge the way they get married!

If something this simple is offending you then I would love to hear more complaints of what else offends you....let me guess....cake cutting/sharing between the bride & groom?!?!?!? please....grow up

It's not your wedding. If the bride has chose to have that custom in her wedding, it's her choice (free will applies to others as it does to you). The invitation was for you to help celebrate her marriage, not to gain your approval. Sometimes you have to have the humility to put yourself aside and focus on others happiness.

As long as you approve of the person you are standing up for and the marriage itself. How the ceremony takes place is not of worry.

Aw, c'mon. Tuck in the agenda long enough to stand up for your friend and voice your opinions in a forum more appropriate than a wedding.

Is it really worth the hassle at this important time?