How do I salvage my relationship with my wife?

Love her. Show it. Play by the rules. Admit to yourself that you WOULDN'T trust someone who doesn't want to 'play by the rules' yourself - you wouldn't want that person for a business partner, nor for a spouse. Ask yourself why you resorted to such actions - I have a suspicion that you don't feel confident that you can handle money. Maybe you think it's easier to borrow/steal it than to plan/manage it. There's a wealth of information at the library about how to handle finances. Live with an allowance and seek a better understanding of how to control your impulses. You'll grow into it. It will get better.

You didn't specify what you did with the money you transferred. I am sure that has a lot to do with her not trusting you. If you have a gambling problem or some other type of addictions, minor or not; it obviously is big enough to make your wife very concerned.

The good news is that you have a chance...otherwise you would be on the couch in someone else's house. You need to be open with her and talk...talk about what you did and why. Don't make excuses or blame it on someone else. If she hears sincerety in your voice, it will be the beggining of her trusting you.

I have never agreed with the whole "couch" thing, I think its ridiculous. But that is your relationship. Ask her to stop treating you like a child and also tell her that you understand why she is upset but that you need to know what you need to do to get out of the dog house. Tell her you understand trust will take time but she has to give you a chance.

Good luck.

i think you should let her know how serious you are about fixing your spending habits. there are not only regular therapists, but also group therapies for spendaholics. if you should start to attend these meetings on a regular basis, then i think she'll get the idea that you are serious about working on the problems in your marriage and will give her something to be relieved about.

just stop stressing her out. now she knows how far you will go to steal from her. also, when you got caught, did you start to excuse yourself like you didnt care and try to twist it onto her? cuz that would have been a big no-no. that just cuts deeper into why she cannot trust you when she's not watching out for her things and what you're doing. anyways, if she could see that you are doing whatever you can to live within your means, then maybe she can feel more relaxed in this relationship with you.

also, i would not recommend she put all her money into a joint account with you. cuz then there would be two fools in your marriage instead of one.

If you spent the money on another broad you're screwed, blued and tatooed. If this is for drugs or gambling you're also screwed. If like many Americans you're struggling to make ends meet, you got to cut her some slack for being responsible and work toward being more responsible yourself. If this is none of the above, you gotta put your foot down and/or wonder why you're in this relationship. Sharing money is tricky and it most definitely requires trust. That's a 2 way street. Again, if you're in the wrong about this, own up and be a man. When she sees you're serious, she will slacken the reins. Good luck! Sounds like you really love her and when you have love everything else is negotiable IMHO.

Yes what you did is wrong So you need to go and tell her that you are sorry and tell her why you did it. My wife has her own checking acct too but it it so she will learn not to bonce checks. Other than that we share money and she can have as much of mine as she wants as long as she tells me she takes it. So is your wife a anal control freak about money or is this some thing you have do before. I think that she is partly to blame too. Most fights and break ups are over money and sex, so if you can pay your bills and aren't having any problems with it both of you need to chill and you needed to kiss her *** and say your sorry again and again and again and again get it.

Communicate

SEEK Counciling

Genuinly ask for forgiveness

Make her fall in Love with you again

SHOW her you are willing to make it work and gain her trust again.

Marriage is ssoo dificult and there will be many more issues in the future but the trick to not being another divorce statistice is fighting for your woman and your marriage!! FIGHT for her back!! DO what it takes because Dude.. you messed up and it sound like you love her. Apparently she does too if she hasnt asked for divorce so dont let this get any farther or any worse.

Blessings sent your way.. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE

Be completely honest with her about everything from now on. She has lost her faith in you and I am sure she is suffering just as much as you, knowing the one person she was able to trust fully, deceived her and stole from her.

The best thing you can do is be kid, honest and loving with your wife. Let her get over her anger at her own pace. If you are consistent and patient, she will eventually gain the trust back and things can go back to normal.

Sounds like a typical American marriage. Wife makes you sleep on the couch and no sex in sight. Eat cheesecake.

you know once you break the trust in a relationship it takes a lot to regain trust back into that person. I would suggest since you did the crime do the time, til she decides when and if she can trust you again.

The key to marriage is communication. Have a heartfelt discussion with her about your issues and try to resolve them together.